Does living together mean you have to stop having fun?

Probably the biggest one is glancing at other males and wondering if they were a potential mate. It’s like the light switch has gone from “On” to “Off”. It just doesn’t happen anymore.

Another example is giving up wearing make-up, contacts, and having my hair highlighted. These changes were tacitly suggested by the SO. After trying it out, I found it liberating. Not only did it free up time for other things, it was a huge cost saving.

Well, going out less is one thing. When we do go out, we’re more likely to visit our typical date night spots instead of going somewhere we’ve never been. I wouldn’t say that monogamy automatically equals monotony, but you may have to make a little more of an effort to get out of your established routine and try new things.

I guess I asked this question, since I have never lived with anyone on an uncommitted basis. I mean, being married is like living under a contract umbrella.

Is the term “love ‘em and leave ‘em” a true description of two people living together, if there are serious problems? Does one just pack a bag and leave? Being married, a lot of the upfront magnetism slowly fades, like hair and body upkeep and so on. So, do these same situations also apply for people living together? Do you argue about bills and not having enough money. If so, it really seems that the only difference in being married and just living together,,,,,,,,is the freedom to say goodbye without any legal strings attached.

So, living together is almost like being married without the marriage certificate. Is that correct?

I have asked a lot of questions here, mainly because my dad always told me, “if you don’t know the answer. then ask the question”.

So be it. Thanks Lonelydragon for your informative answer.

Ultimately yes.

But not always.

The only thing that we don’t do as regularly as we did when dating is to go out for breakfast. We’re now in a habit of waffles on Sunday and, if I have to work on Saturday, bacon, eggs and toast. Otherwise, the recreational things that we did, we still do.

We no longer spend hours on the phone.

We don’t chat online or on the phone as much. That’s it really. It was a bit pathetic but he would leave my place or I his, and then within a few hours we would be chatting online or talking on the phone. No need to do that now.

John, from what I’ve witnessed, any couple in a committed relationship take it seriously whether they obtain a marriage certificate or not. Several of my friends and family members live with someone they are not married to, either by choice or due to the law. (One friend is married, but she and her husband choose to live in separate houses, despite having two young daughters, but that’s another story.) Their relationships are just a committed as yours is. They have the same squabbles over finances and other matters, and they all fall into a degree of comfortable casualness with each other.

The split-up of a couple who isn’t married may only be easier in not having to file for divorce, but it could lead to other complicated legal matters if one partner decides to sue. There are still a few states in the US that recognize common law relationships. Even if the state doesn’t, there is a plethora of reasons that a person might file a lawsuit. Palimony or child support are two that come to mind. The bottom line is that any live-in relationship, married or not, that leads to the parting of ways could end up being messy.

Well, it shouldn’t. When you stop having fun, it might be time to move out…

People living together have the opportunity to share a lot they couldn’t otherwise.
It does not mean you will stop having fun, it can change and you’ll have different fun.
Inside jokes are more likely than ever
With the right partner, appreciating each other is fun, and being part of what makes your partner thrive is fun.

When I first started living with my hubby (before we got married) I found that our fun increased. We were, obviously, with each other much more often which made every spontaneous thing that popped into our heads happen.

The fun slowed down and changed when we had our first child.

I do miss going out dancing, we rarely do that now. But, mostly I think it is because we are older, not because we are married.

We still have fun! We go to dinner about once a week. We spend time with friends at least once a month if not more. We travel 4–6 times a year, sometimes just a long weekend, sometimes a day trip, sometimes a week. Half the travel is for my husband’s racing. Plus, I have fun just watching Big Bang Theory with my husband. I feel like I am having a good time most of the time when I am with my husband.