In past failed relationships, was there a moment or incident when you knew it wouldn't work or it was over?

The final straw was large debts I didn’t know about.

When things about them that I usually thought were cute and/or quirky, suddenly started to bother me.

When he went through every account on my computer after finding my passwords.

When she called me over to give back my engagement ring.

STILL do not know why.

Never got off the ground because he kept calling me “baby” during our first phone conversation, then he texted me that he thought I was “sexy”.
I knew it wasn’t going to work and withdrew.
Does that count? I can’t relive my last “real” disaster, I’m still trying to forgive myself.

When he told me he was moving out.

Back in my teens I was a bit of a “player”, yes that’s right, a conceited tosspot. Most of my relationships were basically doomed from the get go because of this arrogant bullshit attitude, we live & learn.

Not always. Sometimes it just comes on gradually.

Oh, and then there was the guy that called and left a message for me to call him and left a bible verse. I didn’t call him.

@chyna Was his name Matthew, Mark, Luke, John, or Ringo?

When he sided with his best friend after his friend screamed at me and called me the ugliest person in the universe.

evil grin… I owe that best friend a long overdue come-back…

I only had one failed relationship and that was back in high school in the 60’s. I’m old, ain’t I?

Anyway, my old girlfriend started bossing me around and I met a cute girl at the dairy store where I worked after school. There was something about her that I couldn’t resist and I knew my old girlfriend and I were through. I felt sorry for being disloyal to her but free from her bossiness. I made a good choice and my second serious girlfriend is still with me. 47 years later.

Yep, in this order starting with ex husband and moving down the line to boyfriends in chronological order in the last 9 years. haha

1. Lying and cheating and control freak
2. Moody and too macho
3. Arrogant, bossy & obsessed with anal sex
4. Long distance relationship, 70 miles apart, too much work

5 Hasn’t arrived yet and I’m pretty sure there won’t be a five. lol

@chyna LOL!

1. He cheated. I tried the forgiveness and the greater love bs but it was dead.
2. Paranoid, possessive, mentally manipulative, isolating and finally physically threatening.
3. The guy told me he was worried about my health and obesity- this after I went from about 90lbs to 110lbs. I got blown away by that.
4. This guy cursed/name called me as he used to do his ex wife. Done.
5. The guy didn’t brush his teeth for at least 3 days in a row.

When she said “One thing about me, I like to spend money.”

No, many small things that added up.

Oh… we’re going through exes…
1. Disappeared. Just literally fell off the face of the earth and showed up 2 years later wanting to rekindle- yeah right.
2. Suddenly poured a glass of water on my closest male friend’s head for taking too much of my time.
3. Bought a one way ticket to Hawaii to find a shaman, but got there and found out they were mostly Christians out there.
4. My ex husband as mentioned above, no need to rehash—I think I’ve done enough of that :D

About the same time as the first bullet pierced my flesh.

He went to New York to see an old girl friend and was several days late getting back. Another of his friends called to tell me he’d be late. I broke it off when he did get back. I wasn’t willing to spend any more time (6 months) waiting to learn his intentions.