I think just about anything can be turned into a fetish. If shoes can be a turn-on, why not a penis, which is actually supposed to be used for sex?
I think there is probably a lot of shame around the notion that someone would find a penis to be sexy. After all, conventional wisdom says the relationship is about the person, not the parts. It’s supposed to be a male thing to get into boobs and pussies and asses. Women are supposed to be above or beyond that, and if they are into parts, it’s female parts, anyway. The poor male member languishes, except for men who are size fetishists.
The other shameful thing is to be in love with your own penis. It’s so narcissistic. And yet men play with themselves and grow hard and feel powerful and horny and associate that with their penis.
I think that sending a picture of a penis is an attempt to share how good you feel about your penis and to share the pleasure you feel when you have sex. It’s a problem, of course, because the picture doesn’t convey that very well. It’s the same problem as all of porn. How do you convey an interior feeling pleasure? The answer? The “money shot.”
I wonder whether men would send pictures of their penises ejaculating if they could. That probably sounds gross and disgusting, but I suspect that is the feeling that men really want to convey: let’s have ecstasy together.
I doubt if many women would admit to it, but there are probably some who really do enjoy the pictures. Maybe it’s because it is their boyfriend’s penis. They are probably not interested in random penises, except for a few women who are very visual in a way similar to a lot of men. But I don’t think there are many women out there who like random penises. I think that if they do like penis pictures, it is because it is the penis of someone who is very special to them. That penis is beautiful, not because it is a penis—most penises share a lot of similarities—but because it is the penis of the man they love.
As a wooing gesture, I have to wonder though. You’d think that if it didn’t work, men wouldn’t do it. But so many guys do it, it seems like some must be having success. Maybe there are size queens out there.