Do you ever withhold lurve just because you dislike the Jelly, even if you like the question or answer that Jelly just asked or answered?

No. If I like what they have said, I always give a GA or GQ no matter who they are.

No I don’t hold back on lurve. Chyna just got a GA from me. And she smells.

Occasionally my finger will hover over the GA for a second because the person generally irritates me or yes, I don’t like the person they appear to be. In the end I always give the GA if it is deserved. It seems petty and trite to hold back a GA if the response warrants it.

All the time.

And if there is people I don’t like I won’t help them. Even if I know how to fix their computer problem.

Just notice I didn’t say bad or good. I bet she smells great.

Never. It might be a grudgingly given GA or GQ, but I do give it. I have even given QOTD to people I’m not terribly fond of a time or two. If it’s good, it’s good, no matter who wrote it.

@Adirondackwannabe I just got back from the gym, so I’m not smelling so sweet right now. But thank you.

Completely independent spreading of my lurve.

Ah. I’ve been around so long that people who loved me turned into enemies and then back into friends again. I tend to forget to give out lurve, but that’s mostly because my purpose for being here is to write stuff. I only read in order to understand what other people are saying so I can respond to it.

But when I remember, I hand out lurve to people who provide good answers, whether or not I have disagreed with them or fought with them on previous questions. Of course, it is harder if you have viewpoints I disagree with because I tend not to see things I disagree with as being good. But theoretically, I guess, it could happen.

Christ, I don’t even give larvae to people I like. :p But nah, I give it out, if I like the answer, if I learn something, if I laugh, whoever it is.

@Symbeline I’ll raise you a pupae and a chrysalis.

@Adirondackwannabe I’ll trade you for this Xenomorph egg.

I help people even if they don’t deserve it, lurve is free, give it freely.

If it’s particularly well stated, I give GA’s even if I don’t care for the person. It isn’t really fair to make judgments without knowing the whole person, but we all do it. One remark that differs from our opinion and that’s it. Pow. But here, GA’s are food and you can’t let anyone starve. Can you?

Lurve is basically a gimmick to get people to stick around. It is worthless but before you know it you strive to get 100, then 1000 and so on. And then you check back to see if you got more.

So I don’t give it to people that should vanish.

No, if the answer or question is really good then i give it lurve, even if I don’t usually like or agree with them. Some times I don’t want to, but to be fair, I do it.

I give credit where credit is due. Besides, There’s nobody currently active here with whom I have any acrimony.

I believe there’s a desensitizing gel that helps you withhold lurve longer.

I’ve grown a hard shell to protect me from the zaps of the jellies around here. I give GAs and GQs where due despite my personal feelings.

Not generally, no. I’ve done it previously when I was having a seriously shitty day, simply because the shitty day made me feel very petty and childish.

No I am not that petty. And I agree with @Hawaii_Jake.

There is only one Jelly that I can’t stand, and I make it clear that I don’t like them whenever I feel that they are deserving of such. But I often give them GA’s, because despite being a bossy little asshole, her answers are sometimes deserving of a GA.

Ohhhh the lies… hahahahahahahahah!

I only dislike stupid people who are incapable of asking a great question or giving a great answer, so it is not an issue for me.

Just kidding.

I will give you a GA or a GQ, even if I don’t like you, but if I don’t like you, your Q or your A has to be a lot greater than the greatness of the Qs and/or As of people I do like. Actually, I’m pretty stingy with my GAs and GQs though I like to give GAs to people who have given a reasonably good answer and have gotten 0 lurve. I don’t mean to be, I’m just kind of self-absorbed and forget. When I feel bad about that I will give GAs mostly, but some GQs, out it binges, randomly, to anyone who’s said just about anything that isn’t either incredibly stupid or incredibly mean or incredibly evil. I’m very capricious with my lurve, what can I say?

I might be kidding there too, or maybe I’m not.

Edit: I also try to give GAs to anyone who bothers and takes the time to answer one of my questions, unless the answer falls into one of the above categories, but sometimes I forget to do that too.

If I like an answer I will usually GA it, independent of whether I like the person that posted it.

But, and this is a big but,

I frequently do not read the answers posted by people I don’t like, so in that way, I am precluding myself from being able to give them a GA.

@FutureMemory said it best!

No. I give credit where it’s due regardless of who it’s going to.

I agree with @AshLeigh, @FutureMemory pretty much summed up what happens to me!

My experience here is I think most people just don’t take the lurve part all that serious. I just looked at the last 10 questions that got more than 20 replies (which to me would mean it was a good or popular question) and the questions got GQ’s from only 24% of the Jellies who took the time to answer the questions. The percent does not include repeats replies or comments from the OP.

I looked a little deeper into this aspect of Flutherdom and checked a few Jellies Gold Ingot status to validate Jelllies irreverence of Good Questions here and I regard Jeruba as the gold standard of GQ’s and she was awarded the GI 39 times out of 440 questions for a meager 9% average. That means only 9% of her questions got 7 or more GQ’s!!
Me I squeaked out 13% of my Q’s got the GI….ETpro hit 5% of his questions, Jellies thought that 7% of Adirondackwannabe’s questions were worth the GI, 2 of the heavy hitters here were JohnPowell where 21% of his questions got GI and even our Matriarch Augustlan topped off that 23% of her questions were able to entice 7 or more Jelllies to give her a GQ. So it is clearly not an issue of popularity here either.

I just think most Jellies just don’t give a flying fart about GQ’s or GA’s for that matter!

I’m really quite fascinated by the psycho-dynamics of lurve, so I pay a lot of attention to how my own mind deals with it.

I’m willing to bet that most people have this in common with me: I have a kind of ideal about my attitude toward lurve—how I like to think I use it—but in practice, things are a whole lot messier and laced with emotional influences that I don’t acknowledge in my “official” , sanitized lurve policy. That shouldn’t be all that surprising really, given the masses of research that show how we consider ourselves to be much more rational in our processes than we really are.

For starters, I’ll bet that lurve actually means quite a bit more to most people than they’re willing to acknowledge. Further, I think we talk about how little it means to us precisely because it means more to us than we think it should.

And I think our feelings about users influence us more than we’re willing to acknowledge, too. Look, there’s just bound to be a strong “priming” effect in force when we ‘re reading through Qs & As. Seeing who posted a comment (and for those of you who think you don’t look to see who posted it before reading it, I assure you that it registers on a subconscious level anyway) will inevitably evoke an emotional response based on your past interactions with that user, and will just as inevitably color your perception of the quality of that comment. You will be favorably or unfavorably disposed toward the comment before you even read it. So while it may be true, in a sense, that we give a GA/GQ based on our perceptions of merit, do still unconsciously raise and lower the bar for each hurdler.

I say all this based on careful observation of my own behavior, but I’m daring to generalize these observations to most users simply because this so perfectly fits with a vast body of psychological research.

@Cruiser made me go and do some Math.

To me giving a GQ or a GA is not about lurve, it is simply acknowledging the fact that it was, to me anyhow, a really interesting or thought provoking question and an amusing or knowledgeable response. Lurve doesn’t mean much of anything except that you spend a lot of time here. So much is awarded at the lurve fests or at other times and have nothing to do with quality of answers.

Sometimes. I know that others give me lurve regardless of their feeling for me, because everyone here hates me.

I just gave you a GA because of the hatred I bear you.

@CWOTUS I just hate you in a particularly lurving kind of way. I enjoy your company. Go figure. Nobody loves me. Everybody hates me. I’m gonna go eat worms.

I love your dog, and you are pretty nice too!

On this and all social networking sites, I try to encourage the content I like by acknowledging it, and discourage the content I don’t like by ignoring it – except rare cases where I felt some intervention was needed on non-moderated sites. Therefore, even if I haven’t enjoyed any prior contributions from a particular poster, I will take a moment to comment on something they post that does interest or entertain me, in the hopes that positive attention will encourage more of the same.

No, but it gives me a twitchy feeling when I do it!

I’m absolutely convinced that this is commonplace, not just on here but any similar site. I’ve had a goose egg on many threads when everybody else received points, even when my answer was similar to most of the others. Personally for me, no, and I can’t imagine why people choose to withhold points for such nonsensical reasons. Like I’ve said before, if I was on here for lurve I would of had retired long ago. I’m interested in making more money though.

I wouldn’t give so much gravitas to what amounts to no more than a bit of harmless fun.
Slightly petty minded & shallow, not to mention over competitive to allocate lurve in that way.

The questioner clearly does, but then I knew that anyway.

I wouldn’t give so much gravitas to what amounts to no more than a bit of harmless fun.

@ucme said something serious and meaningful. That’s a GA right there, even though I hate him. :-)

@lillycoyote Doh, you’re just saying that, killing me softly eh ;¬}

You don’t seriously hate @ucme, @lillycoyote. Remember what you told me about him in PM the other day? ;) ;) ;)

Well would you credit it, when you chatterbugs get together.