I keep having dreams about someone that I like but do not want her or anyone to know about it. so why is this happening?

) May 16th, 2012 from iPhone

We work together. She is my manager. I did not notice her at all right away until one day she drew on piece of paper. She was trying to explain her idea to me and I looked down at the drawing and started laughing. I asked, “what is this?” She responded with laughter and said, ” my illustration of what my vision is for this story.” Then I said to her respectfully, “you could have just explained it to me.” I continued on with a smile. We chatted on about she can’t draw but likes too. We continued having days like this. Laughing all the time and chatting away. I have been over to her home and out with her but nothing out of the ordinary. Then I started to have these dreams. I just started working there over 7 months ago and I guess she did not know what I was able to do which would explain the drawings. Now she just talks to me about it. I will pretty much do my own thing combined with hers ideas. She will get more from me out of a project when I do them for her… Ok, so now I am rambling. The dreams are intense. Sometimes they go all the way and other times they are just subtle. I had one last night that expressed how she is afraid to get involved with me because we work together. We were head to head against the wall gazing into each others eyes. Holding hands but trying not to be noticeable. These dreams are driving me insane. I avoid her as much as possible at work which is hard to do because at some point I have to talk to her which happens almost everyday. Intelligence as well as common sense goes out the window because I draw a blank while talking her. I decided to let her talk. Now if it is about a project then all of the infatuation and desires will go out the window and it is game on. To top it all off, I know for fact that she does not think of me at all in that way…period! I just want these reoccurring dreams to end…or do I?

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It sounds as if you already know the answer to your own question. You state that you are infatuated with her. That alone will influence your dreams.

Pied_Pfeffer (28144

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Because she is on your mind. Especially since you are not talking about her, your feelings have to be processed somehow thus your dreams.

marinelife (62485

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Dreams are dreams and real life is real life. Unfortunately, you do not have much control over your dreams but since she is your manager, she is off limits. it is hard but you will have to find a way to reconcile the two.

janbb (63219

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Give it time. Another infatuation will take her place eventually.

digitalimpression (9920

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Clearly feelings you have to repress in real life will find expression in your dream life. Enjoy them and don’t feel guilty about them so long as you keep the difference between real life and fantasy in mind. It is fine to show respect and admiration for your manager’s skills and knowledge.

Dr_Lawrence (20014

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Because this women isn’t in bed with you, so it’s working, she’ll never know.

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If you want the dreams to end, then you must retrain yourself in how you think about her. Every time a romantic thought appears, you must bash it back, telling yourself it is not appropriate, and reminding yourself that she does not feel that way about you anyway.

It’s stupid to think of her that way, isn’t it? You lust after her like a schoolboy, but she doesn’t care about you. You’re just an employee to her. Maybe she’s even manipulating you so you’ll work harder. Who knows?

There’s a real danger that if you let yourself indulge in these thoughts any longer. you could let something slip, and treat her inappropriately and get fired. Do you want to be jobless in this economy? You better be really careful. You can’t afford to think like this. You have to cut out all those bad thoughts and keep it strictly professional.

You know this, of course. So I’m just giving you the script you want. Play it for yourself every chance you get and and think the dreams will stop happening. Of course, if you are having too much fun pretending something could happen, you won’t do this, and the dreams will continue and who knows? Maybe you really will lose your job.

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The advice given was great. No more dreams and then…. I love to cook. I prepared salmon, a spinach salad and I made a homemade mango salsa. I brought it to work. My manager walks over to my desk and said, “that looks so good” and I replied with a thank you of course. Then the unexpected happened. She said to me, will you marry me and I nearly choked on my salmon. I replied with a “no.” Here come the dreams….AGAIN

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