Should I move into this house?

Anything is possible. I suggest writing out a balance sheet of pros & cons.
If, for instance, your rent, location and other things in the new house are really great then it might be worth it to drive the extra 30 minutes to work and back. If it’s just mediocre living conditions then the extra commute time and fuel might not be worth it.
Write out the pros and cons and see which column is stacked higher. lol

I think we need more details to give you a helpful response.
My first instinct in your situation would be to get out of a house with an ex ASAP, and the fact that you found “a nice place with great roommates” certainly is encouraging.
Is a 35 minute versus a 15 minute commute really a drastic change for you? Sounds like you just have to wake up half an hour earlier than you are used to, but you didn’t give us any details. Will you be using public transit, walking, or driving? Will it significantly increase your commute costs? How does that add to your monthly rent/bill burden?

About the topic of friends/possible dates, I think it should be quite possible to maintain connections over a distance of 45 minutes. I’ve been friends with and dated people who lived an hour or more away. But again, this depends on your situation and where you live. Will you be able to travel to see these people fairly easily? Are there any meeting-places half way where you can hang out, like bars, cafes, etc.?

I will be driving. I have a Prius, so it’s pretty good with saving gas. I usually fill up once a month and a full tank in $30. I did the math and I will roughly be using up 3 tanks a month with the commute, making that $90 a month.

There are lots of places to meet in between, but if I wanted them coming over to my place occasionally I feel like that hour drive is too long.

I’ve lived in places where I had an hour commute and friends lived all over the place and I never thought much about traveling an hour to see them. That was New York City.

Since then, I’ve lived in place where my commute was half and hour or less, with the occasional 45 minute commute when there are traveling problems. I like this a lot better. I think a 35 minute commute is doable, although less is better, of course.

You know what it’s like to look and how hard it is to find places where you live, but just think. If you save 20 minutes on your commute, you are saving 40 minutes a day, 3 hours a week, or about a week each year. So it is worth spending extra time looking for a place that is closer. If you add in the time you save getting to visit your friends, then, depending on how often you visit them, you could be saving more weeks.

So my opinion is that it is worth putting in more effort to find a place that is more convenient, without sacrificing on the other things that are of value to you, like price or location or aesthetics or safety.

It’s generally less stressful to have a shorter commute, IMHO. And, yeah, living far away from other people in your social circle probably makes your social life suffer.

If you can move in with minimal transaction costs (i.e., no lease, no extraordinary deposit or down payment costs, no other un-recoverable costs up front, no significant costs to moving furniture and household goods, straight month-to-month rent payments, etc.), then go for it. What have you got to lose? If it doesn’t work out, then you find another place that’s more suitable. Or a new boyfriend who lives closer to where you want to be.

An additional 20 minutes does not seem like much to me for congenial living conditions. Also, what’s 45 min to an hour between friends? If you meet ½ way it will only be ½ hour to see each other.