How to initiate conversation with this girl?
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June 6th, 2012
Ok so here is the scoop. About 6 months ago I had to go to physical therapy for a while for an injury. My therapist was really cool, we talked about anything but therapy – she is about my same age (mid-20s). I know her job is to be nice and caring but I feel like we had some sort of bond that was more than that.
Maybe 2 months after I finished therapy she added me on LinkedIn (I know this story is sounding so internet cheesy), but we never said anything to eachother – every now and then she will view my profile so I can’t help but think maybe she thinks about me too.
I could be entirely wrong and be making this into something its not, but I’d like to write her a message of some sort just to say hello and maybe feel her out to see if she would be interested in hanging out at some point.
The problem is that I don’t know what to say, I don’t want her to wonder why I would try to contact her or think I’m weird or anything, but I don’t really have anything to lose as we don’t talk now. Can you guys help me figure out something to say to her??
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Hi, I’m “Tongue-tied;”
About six months ago you helped me rehab the injury I had to my (head, brain, wrist, ankle, back, knee, toe, shoulder…pick one.)
I am doing really well now and appreciate all your help. In addition to your encouragement and the exercises you taught me, you made the sessions fun, a rare gift.
Do you have any interest in meeting me for coffee or iced tea?
Let me know what you think.
Best, “Tongue-tied.”
I like the way @gailcalled put it that would be a nice first message if you are going to go for it.
Saying that.. I personally wouldn’t read into her adding you on LinkedIn and checking out your profile as more than that. LinkedIn is a place for professional networking and she probably just added you because you were a client. If she wanted to be more friendly I think she would have found you on Facebook.
That’s just me though… best of luck to you.
PS. Looking back at your earlier questions, I see that you are female and so is your therapist. Will that be an issue or did you get some clear signals?
I usually extend my hand and introduce myself. If they already know my name, I say “How about we get together for dinner?”
Unless they are married, or think I am a loser, that usually works.
You could ask her a question about what you got surgery on, then ween into asking what she does in her spare time
Just say something like, “I find that I miss seeing you. Would you like to have coffee sometime this week?”
Just go for it! One must be bold….Carpe Femme! Seize the woman! lol
I betcha’ a gazillion bucks she is having thoguhts too but was professional enough to not blow her professional profile.
I’d go with @gailcalled ‘s approach….hesitation kills! :-)
@gailcalled answered it better than I could have ever thought to. Definitely go with this.
@loophole99: OP never mentioned surgery. And what does “ween onto asking what she does…” mean?
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