NSFW Do those weighted cones work?

Sounds like crap to me, and two years is way longer than you need to tighten back up I’m sure, and trust me, he’ll be pleased either way. Just don’t do the taco handshake and loosten yourself up if you are worried.

oh god, what a comment

Oh lord, there are a lot of other parts that need to connect better than the penis and Vagina. If he really, REALLY likes ALL of you, most importantly your mind, your character and other cerebral parts the rest will take care of itself.

@XOIIO That’s good to know. I’m evidently insecure about this. But… what’s a taco handshake?

@Coloma Yes, the best organ’s between the ears, but if the parts are not working, I will be embarrassed. I’ve not had many partners and the ones I had were all large. Going with a guy that is very small is a shock because I don’t know what to do differently. I don’t care about his size, I just want to have him satisfied too. That’s why I’m asking.

@darkserenade You can look at the dictionary version, but that quotes this video.

From my understanding being with a larger fellow doesn’t make it a hot dog in a hallway. If anything it is the opposite. Your girl parts are a muscle and had a workout. Your vagina is probably like Kevin Garnett now.

You’re just fine. Do some kegals (do them even if you aren’t fucking anyone; they help with bladder control). The rest, your vagina will just naturally do, because that’s how it works. Don’t spend money on those cone thingies, they’re scams.

@XOIIO I’m so confused as to what a woman masturbating has to do with vaginal tightness.

I knew someone who used the weighed cones to deal with incontinence and was satisfied with the results, but did not use it for sexual purposes. She said the cones do take about 6 months of regular use before she saw improvement with her incontinence issues. 6 months—makes me wonder if she was just exercising those kegels anyway and would’ve accomplished the same without cones.

So, just do kegels. I’d agree with @Aethelflaed—they’re scams.

@darkserenade If you haven’t given birth multiple times to 10 lb. babies you have nothing to fear. The vagina adjusts to it’s contents. If you’re not a draft horse mating with a miniature donkey you’re fine. lol
There are multitudes of ways to pleasure a partner, you have hands, lips, and imagination….your vagina is not as important as you think it is.

Right…kegals!

@Aethelflaed same thing as sex and giving bird, it stretches you out.

@XOIIO… No it doesn’t!

Thank you everyone. I appreciate your discussion.

I am confused now. I am getting conflicting messages from what I read online. I have not had many partners like I said so I am not sure how to adjust. The media and news online really plays with women’s minds to make them insecure. It is stupid with anal bleaching and vaginal plastic surgery. It makes women, and I admit me too, wonder what is wrong with them when they don’t have other accurate information to help them.

I did think it would become like a hotdog in the hallway. If that is not true then why are women told they have loose vaginas all the time?

Just kegals? That’s it? It seems simple.

@Aethelflaed It does to some degree, and it does return back to it’s regular form, just don’t do the taco handshake shortly before sex and there won’t be any difference from the regular, but if you shove your fist up there shortly before it’s going to be a bit bigger.

@darkserenade The loose vagina thing is a myth, I’m pretty sure of it. I don’t know enough about anatomy to give a clear, exact answer about why it is a myth, I just know it is.

Wait, why aren’t you two guys giving direct answers about whether the shape/size of a woman’s vagina makes a difference or not?

@XOIIO Ok, so first: female masturbation is not necessarily vaginal penetration. Clitoral stimulation can lead to orgasms for many women without any penetration; without penetration, there’s not really going to be any effect on vaginal tightness. Clitoral stimulation seems to really be the most common form of female masturbation. Two: inserting any masturbatory object into the vagina would really not make any kind of measurable difference; arousal is really the big factor, because when a woman is aroused, her vagina is capable of expanding 2–3 times as much as normal in order to accommodate penetration. Three: Dude. Fisting ourselves? No. We might get fisted, by another, but really, I’ve never heard of a woman fisting herself, and as I go to check out how uncomfortable that would be, I’m finding it would be “breaking my wrist” levels of uncomfortableness.

@darkserenade Yup. Kegals. All that weighted stuff is just to help you with kegals, anyway, but they don’t really work.

@linguaphile It’s a myth because virgins are supposed to be better than the slutty, slutty whore of a woman, and if having sex makes you looser and that makes you less enjoyable in bed, then you best keep your legs together. Yet another way to control the sexuality of women. Yay!

You are ok. He will probably know you are not a virgin and not care. I have a tiny cock and I don’t care. Trust me, you are fine. But as someone that also has a small penis you might want to give him some pincers when he goes downtown to make sure you get yours.

@Aethelflaed @linguaphile If it is a myth then why do guys and others talk about a girl being the tightest they’ve had?

@johnpowell I don’t understand pincers?

Pincers. I love this thread!

@darkserenade Because they’re full of shit. Because it’s a way to boast that you didn’t just get sex, you got sex from someone who is (according to the myth, again, this isn’t actually true) hard to get sex from. And because vaginas do actually change levels of tightness, just more because of arousal and age than because of previous penetration. Additionally, there’s wide variety in the exact shape and size vaginas come in in the first place, just like how there’s variety in the sizes and shapes noses come in. If my partner’s bragging about how tight I am, to me, that actually sounds like he’s bragging out how little he cared about my pleasure and arousal.

This question has made me curious— @johnpowell . Society’s not nice to guys with small packages—it does make me wonder how those guys feel when jokes are made so often, and they can’t fight for political correctness without revealing something very private. Ugh. I feel for you guys.

I have wondered the same thing as @darkserenade, but more along the lines of—what all is different for smaller cocks. I’m a girl, obviously, so what guys feel isn’t in my range of knowledge… :D

@linguaphile :: Bit of a derail here. But some dedication and a limber tongue get the job done.

@linguaphile You should go ask that as a totally separate question, that I’m 127% sure we would all watch incredibly closely, with rapt attention.

Do it. Do it. Do it.

LMAO. @Aethelflaed I just will.

May I ask, wth are weighted cones? I’ve had big cocks and small cocks inside of me. The only thing that mattered to me was that the guy wasn’t a dick!

@dontmindme Good one… I like that.

Vaginal cones

Wow. Thank you everyone for your answers and help. I have a lot to think about now.

This seems like a good time to point you in the direction of this website, for a full rundown of all things vaginal tightness. Scarleteen is a sexuality education website targeted at teens and young adults by Heather Corinna, who’s something of a goddess in the sex ed world.

lol best question of the year so far I think

@Aethelflaed That’s a great web site. I’ve directed some former students to that site as well when they ask me questions I can’t answer.

I think your 127% is watching with rapt attention, but as of right now… no answers… haha!

@linguaphile I love you SO MUCH for pointing kids there :D

@Aethelflaed—thanks :)

Well this question cleared just about everything up accept anal bleaching and, well, I really don’t want to know what that is. :0

Anal bleaching? WTF is THAT? Wait, I don’t really want to know. :-/

First of all, a guy who is “small”, is more likely to be worried about whether he can please you. Not that I would know this from experience, but I do read.

Second, and as you’ve already been guided, “the parts” aren’t the biggest most important part of sex, anyway. And that much I do know from experience.

But with that said, I am reminded of an (another) old joke:
Do you know why women are such bad judges of distance?

Because all their lives they’ve been taught that this:
8=========================================================D
is six inches.

no relation, FYI

Hysterical laughter.

Re: “The media and news online really plays with women’s minds to make them insecure.”

This is called “marketing.” If you have a product to sell, make people feel like they are incomplete without it, and they will buy it. That’s how people make money if their product isn’t actually something people really need.

You are complete. You are fine.