Why do you want to date someone?

Speaking from my own expeirence, the only time i dated, was with the prospect of a potential relationship with a girl that I had met over the internet through a friend. So in my case it was, basically, to test whether we had the same chemistry IRL as well.

The reason I go out (on dates) is to find someone to stay in with.

It varies.
Not everyone (including yourself) even know what they are looking for.it is a process of getting to know more about a person and if you enjoy being around and interacting with. It also involves how you work together when you are apart.
Many people date for many different reasons. Some are obvious reasons like companionship, social aspects, physical desires, etc…..
Whatever it is, I personally don’t believe in rules about number of dates (3 date rule) or time. Each person is themselves and may have different motives and timing. Its about how you feel about that person and if it mutually works to continue the process.
There is no magic rules in dating, but you do hope for magic.
The only certain thing is to treat each other with respect.

I think when I was younger I wanted to date because I wanted to be around the person. They made me feel good, made me laugh, turned me on, I felt a connection. I also really liked that they wanted to go out with me (this is the big mistake I think) made me feel good about myself. Made me feel pretty and witty.

If I started dating again it would be a little different I think now. But, maybe not? I see my friends in their 40’s dating and it is so much like hgh school. The worries, the game. I figure I wouldn’t be much different if I was out there again.

I don’t really date either – I either know I want to pursue the relationship or I don’t. I get the sense for people rather quickly and move through relationships even quicker. I don’t really get dating, but I’m willing to try it. Lately, I’ve been considered casual dating rather than adding serious relationships to my life.

I have not dated too often in my life. I have had dates, where men came to my house and picked me up and took me back, but the majority of times that I went out with boyfriends were more casual, and I wouldn’t consider those “dates.” If I had someone as a long term boyfriend, and he came over and we went out, I don’t consider those “dates.” Not sure why, it was more like we just went out. Other times, when I was younger (late teens, early 20’s), I would hook up with guys that I hung out with, but we didn’t go on dates. I don’t do online dating now, and I never did, so I never did dating from that way, either. I would say, though, to answer the question, when I did date people, it was because I liked them, wanted to be with them and wanted to see where the relationship went.

Your misinterpreting ‘Date’ with ‘Relationship’.. Anytime we meet or set up some rendezvous with others it’s technically a date, even casual get-togethers are considered dates.. Sometime in the future (if you continue the meetings) it can blossom into a relationship with the right person.. Here, the relationship starts slow (in order to get to know each other’s habits and glitches) It’s really a natural process once you feel closer to another than you feel toward others unless of course your thinking with the wrong head. Let it flow and see what pans out, don’t treat it like a challenge.. There’s not a ‘message’ in every thing we do.

When I dated, it was to hang out with someone I already envisioned I’d want to have sex with and explore a relationship with.

To find out how old they are, silly.
If an old timer’s leg is chopped off you can count the rings to establish an accurate age, fascinating stuff.

@ucme Well, that’s all well and good for you, but I don’t date trees.

Tell me, does the old ball and chain know you think she’s a tree?

I’m going to go out on a limb here & suggest you should branch out, sounds like you secretly pine for a young sapling, or maybe i’m barking up the wrong tr….....