Questions in general are no different from other questions. There is the surface question and there is the underneath question—the question the person really wants answered, but either isn’t sure how to ask, or maybe isn’t even conscious of wanting the answer to that question. It’s perfectly obvious from the face question what the underneath question is, but if you answer the real question in general, you get modded. That helps no one.
Sometimes the person asking the question thinks they aren’t asking the underneath question. That’s usually because of some shame issue about the underneath question. They can’t even admit to themselves that that’s what they want. But anyone with eyes to see can read the surface question and can tell what is really going on. But the asker may even flag the answer because they are embarrassed to be seen through.
The mods are doing no one any services by modding these questions. But they are following the letter of the law.
My specialty, of course, is seeing through to the underneath questions. I am often quite helpful to people in doing this, to judge by the notes I get. I am confident enough about this to believe that even when people think I am wrong or off topic, they are still getting something out of it.
I think the moderators need to give more latitude in general. There was one question where half the answers were deleted and they were all on topic. I don’t know why they were deleted, except I think it had to do with some nit-picky complaint by the questioner. I know I went beyond the surface question and I gave one of my better answers ever here, and it’s gone, never to be seen again. Is it any wonder that I have little respect for the moderators?
Just about every single time I’ve been modded, it’s been a nit-picky kind of thing. I think the mods don’t need to be like that. I think they should go after obvious things, but if there’s any question at all, they should err on the side of liberalness, and leave the post up. I also don’t think this should be a referendum on the part of jellies. Just because five jellies don’t like something and flag it doesn’t mean there aren’t 100 that appreciate the question. You don’t hear from these people. There is no “unflag” button.
The thing is, this is a growing pattern and I think it is hurting fluther overall. I suspect it is part of the reason we do not get so many new people to stay. The atmosphere here can seem oppressive if you don’t understand what people are on about. I mean, it is annoying to me, and I’m a strong person. I can put up with all the personal attacks.
Spam? Yes! Get rid of it!
Duplicate questions? Sure. No need.
Trolls? Be careful. A lot of behavior that some people consider to be trolling is actually quite interesting and can lead to good discussions, if people keep their invective out of it.
Off topic? That’s in the mind of the beholder and the minds of the beholders right now are too small, I think.
Ok. I know your minds are all set and nothing will change. And I know that saying “I told you so” somewhere down the line won’t help. I would try to shut up about this and accept it, but perhaps the best solution would be to stop modding me. Then I won’t get annoyed and try to alert people to this problem. Talking to mods, of course, is worthless. And I don’t want to spend the energy to bring it to Augustlan every time. That’s not why I’m here. But blowing off a little steam feels a little bit useful.