Should I add him on Facebook?

You know, in the old days, you might call him up (on the phone) and tell him you wanted to know more about his experience in the other country because you are interested in doing that kind of work, as well. Then you might talk, or meet for coffee and talk, or whatever.

But not its Facebook, and its as if there is no social life outside of Facebook. I wonder how long it’s going to take people to catch on that the social life inside of Facebook is really quite different from the social life we have in the real world.

But I don’t see why you can’t friend him and send him a note saying the same thing. “I heard you talk about your work and I’m interested in that work too, so I hope we can friend and I’d like to have a chance to find out more. Do you have any pictures of what you were doing?”

Then you become friends and then you work it from there. I’m sure he’ll catch on pretty quickly that you are interested in him. You “like” him. Maybe he still thinks of you as being off limits due to being three years younger (or whatever). But thems the breaks. In a few more years, it won’t matter so much.

But you don’t really seem to know him yet, so who knows what will happen when you get to know him. I hope he turns out to be as wonderful as you think he is.

Go ahead and friend him. I get friend requests from people I don’t even recognize, and I usually approve them because I figure they’re someone I know but for some reason their name isn’t ringing any bells at first. (They usually turn out to be people from Fluther, or other online communities).

In general I think you’re worrying way more than you need to about this.

Bite the bullet and friend him… he’ll see your profile picture too, not just your name, so make it a good one and I’m sure he’ll recognise you.

I’m jumping on the wagon, here. Friend him with a message. It may seem like a big deal, but it’s not. The worst he’ll do is ignore it, and you’ll have to come up with more creative ways to speak with him (ie. in person).

What do you have to lose?

Go ahead and add him. What’s the worst that could happen? There’s a good chance that he’ll accept you, and you can send him a message asking him about the work he did. Just take it from there.

Add him on Facebook. Then tell him that you want to get together to discuss his charity work because you are planning on doing some too. Then get together with him at a coffee shop and see how things go.

Nothing is going to happen if you don’t act except that he will meet someone and you will have lost your chance.

If you have any mutual friends on Facebook, then it is a definite yes. I accept friend requests from anyone I have mutual friends with, and I know others who do too.

Plus it is so much easier to talk to someone on Facebook messaging if you are nervous. And, one day when you are really feeling bold, you can Facebook chat him. :)

Bottom line, do you want to be seventy years old berating yourself for being too scared to friend someone on Facebook? I already kick myself over things like that, and I’m a baby in the scheme of things. (We all kind of are. Except for that rare individual who reaches 100. They are just impressive.)

Absolutely add him! Most people add people they don’t know so it’s no big deal. But beware of the heartbreak of fb stalking when he posts about some girl or another. If you can take the pain, then give it a try, but don’t be a creepy creeper.