Academic research is apparently mixed on this topic. In this study, the author found that if you pay for grades or test scores, there is no relationship between pay and output. However, if you pay for specific tasks, like completing homework, the pay can make a difference.
The researcher Alfie Kohn has written a book that marshalls research and logic showing that while manipulating people with incentives seems to work in the short run, it is a strategy that ultimately fails and even does lasting harm.
This educator is very concerned about paying kids for grades because she believes it teaches kids that we value them for what they do, not who they are. She says kids need to be valued for who they are, not what they do.
This last point resonates strongly with me, because it was very clear to me as a child and young adult that my parents wouldn’t think much of me unless I saved the world —or at least made a lot of money. They did not seem to stress the things they looked like they valued: like relationships. They had many good friends and loved each other a lot, but they never seemed to give me approval for my success in relationships. None of that mattered. The only thing that mattered was looking smart and making a certain amount of money.
Since I failed at those things, I felt like a failure in life. Eventually, I had to learn that I needed to let these ideas about success go if I was ever to shed this depression that threatened to kill me. Or rather, I found a way to give up those ideas and then I got a lot happier, and that’s what saved my life.
I was never paid for grades, and I did all right. I do not pay my children for grades. In fact, both of them were sent to schools that didn’t give grades to avoid this very problem. My daughter switched to public school for 9th grade, and of course, they have to grade there. She has a 4.04 GPA, so far. This is the best high school in the city, and people take a lot of AP and honors and MG classes. Grades for those classes are weighted upwards and that’s how you get GPAs higher than 4.0. I don’t know what the highest GPA is. She thinks it might be upwards of 4.2. All those kids, she says, are Asian. She asked one of them what he does for fun. “I read textbooks,” he said.
I expect my kids to do well. But I don’t want to put too much pressure on them, because I don’t want to do what my parents did to me. Finding the right balance is a work in progress. But I don’t think money or pay is necessary, nor do I think it desirable, for reasons stated in the research and articles I cited. We can achieve our goals simply by being clear to our children what is important to us, and by helping them achieve these goals.