(NSFW) How easy can a 25 year old man get turned on?

@minnie19 Sure that’s possible. Arousal can be a purely mental phenomena. I’ve always assumed this was the same for women as well.

^ Can really like the girl, even though only just met her, and get a boner by playin with her arm?

Or is it just a sexual desire and nothing romantic in this case?

@minnie19 Sure. He’s probably thinking of playing with something else.

It really doesn’t take much for a guy to get a boner. If he thinks you are attractive, that’s all it takes sometimes.

Oh lord and I thought he was just being lovely. Haha… :/

He can still be sweet and get a boner. That’s normal for a healthy young man. =)

fyi, I’m not a guy. just speaking from experience

@minnie19 it’s somewhat involuntary, so he may have been lovely, but his little friend in his pants may have had other ideas.

Haha. Very interesting. But he possibly wanted to sleep with me during or after the moment. I just wish it was more special than that…

Hard to understand boys! Imagine a world where guys say no to sex :D!!

I can’t really say what his mind was doing. The presence of an erection doesn’t guarantee that he had naughty ideas, sometimes we can be frustrated with our penises. I keep thinking of the scene in “Something about Mary” where the guy’s friend tells him to masturbate before his big date because it’s “like going out with a loaded gun.”

Ha! Surely you jest! Right? How easy is it for a man to be turned on? HAHAHAHAHA. How ‘bout a good stiff (no pun intended) breeze?
Oooo hooo. Haaa haaaahaaaa. Hooooooo! Ahhhhhhhhhh!! Oh my ribs!

Lmfao ^

I’m 26, and I have an erection right now.

Blackberry thanks for sharing! Would you like to give some details? Like why you do? ;P

Let me guess. Same guy you’ve been asking about for the last several days? The one that you’re worried may try to force you to have sex? The one that your friend warned you about? The one that inappropriately asked to meet your parents after the second date?

Syz, I really like him :(

@minnie19 It’s just biology. I won’t be thinking about anything sexual, and I’ll get aroused.

I often think of biology and get aroused.

I’m 55 and the voice of my beloved on the phone talking about nothing in particular can give me an erection.

Just because she so easily turns me on, does that mean she isn’t special? NOOOOO!!! She is very special. Not any woman could turn me on that way.

You wonder what this erection means. Does it mean he likes you? Yes. Does it mean he thinks your special? Who knows? It could mean that. If it were me, it would mean I thought you were special. I don’t get a boner just because I’m touching a woman. I only get one when I’m touching a woman I am interested in. Is your friend interested in you? I don’t know. You have to make that call based on the whole picture, not just the boner.

If there has been a lot happening between you two, then I think it is likely that he cares for you and is interested in you. Do you want to have sex with him? That’s pretty much up to you. If you want to, he might go along. Would it lead to anything longer lasting? I don’t know. In general, I have found that if I have sex with a woman early on, it tends to last. But if she delays for a while, then when we finally do it, it’s missing something. I think you need that energy of having to have someone if you want a relationship to have legs.

On the other hand, that doesn’t guarantee the relationship will last forever. Nothing can guarantee that. You just have to work hard at it if you want it to last. But sex, I think, is a great way to cement a relationship early on.

Guys, especially young guys, can get boners from the most ridiculous random things. There’s really no rhyme or reason to it, except that he’s thinking about sex. It doesn’t indicate anything about his feelings for you, one way or another. He could be thinking, “this is the most special woman in the world,” or he could be thinking, “boobs!”

Look at nice tits/legs/arse, get hard….what’s the name of that Jackson five song again? ;¬}

@Haleth He’s probably thinking about boobs.

@tedd I concur.

Honey, how old are you? You seem to have an awful lot of questions about men and sex, that you should already know about if you are and adult and in a position to be dating and/or having sex with men.

I’m really worried that you are quite young and naive and may be putting yourself in harm’s way because you don’t seem to know much about what sex is, or how men’s bodies and minds work, or how decent men should interact with women.

Have your parents talked to you about sex and relationships? Have you had any kind of sex education at school?

You also seem to be very infatuated with the idea of getting together with a man without the benefit of any real knowledge about the dynamics of relationships between men and women, or any real knowledge about sexuality. That is a recipe for disaster. You are a prime target for a date rape or an un-planned pregnancy.

If I were you, I would put away any ideas about hooking up with men and try to learn all you can about relationships and sexuality by talking to older females (friends or relatives and your doctor) by taking a few classes and by checking out some books on sexuality and relationships and birth control. Give yourself a few years.

I speak for myself, and i’m 22, so not that far from the mark.

Takes no effort at all. Give me a hint that I might have sex with a woman i’m attracted to in the near future, and I will be ready for action in 10 seconds flat.

Kardamam thanks :) I am an adult but I’ve mostly had good friendships with men. I’m seen as the unreachable woman by most men and I am too picky to start a relationship with just any. I’ve only kissed about 4 guys in my life, and I was only dating one. I never saw a penis in my life, and no men saw me naked. I know the way Im saying these are weird but I dont know how else :D

I know myself and I care about my career and art more than love relationships. I’m too independant and I never needed a man.

I never talked to my parents about sex that would suck. Phew. :D I dont even have to, Im not planning on having sex for a looong time. And when I do Id make sure Its safe. I’m sure.

I guess the reasons Im asking these questions are more out of curiosity and desire of knowledge and fun. Its not that Im at the edge of making mistakes. Id never do anything that would make me disrespect myself ..

Im so thankful for your concern. Youre lovely. :)

@minnie19 I’m glad to hear that you aren’t looking to enter a sexual relationship at this time. I still think it would be wise for you to learn all you can about sexuality and relationships simply so you will know what it is all about, and so you can conduct yourself wisely and safely when the time comes. As an adult, you should know about and understand these things. And you should also learn how to avoid giving men the wrong impression or putting yourself into an awkward or potentially dangerous situations, un-intentionally.

You could start with Planned Parenthood

Here’s a bunch of online Resources about sexuality, and how to avoid violence against women (including within dating situations).

Have a look : )