How can you overcome regret?

Time

Just wait until your forget the regret, or you will regret that you didn’t forget the regret

I don’t know that you ever really lose the regret, but it becomes less significant as time goes on. Mostly, you just try to learn from it and go forward with the intention of never making that mistake again.

Just as the wise above said, that is all there is to it. Depending on the situation it will always be there, either hazily or intensely, but the point is to move on, learn and avoid such situations. Remember it is part of being human. Come to terms with it and it will somehow come to terms with you!

I have embraced self-hatred to help me to deal with regret.
Remember, recognizing that you are a worthless bit of pond scum is the first step.

The sting lessons with time. What also happens with time is you learn more and more everyone makes mistakes. If you have a regret, then maybe it will mean in the future you will be more understanding of other people’s mistakes, be a forgiving person, and eventually that understanding helps you forgive yourself.

Also, it depends on the mistake of course, but generally mistakes are art of our learning process of life. So, maybe reframing the error, and looking at the lesson you have learned and how it benefits you can help you feel better. That having made a misake yesterday, might have helped you greatly for the future when maybe it will matter much much more to do the right thing.

The best way I’ve found to overcome regret is to learn and grow from the situation.
By holding onto regrets, you are the only one that is hurting.

If there is another person(s) involved you can make attempts to correct or atone/apologize for your your regretful action. Absent that, you have to move on with your life. Making mistakes is part of life and a very effective way to learn about things and life in general. There should be a lesson to learn from your regretful action and it sounds as if you are aware of this…probably painfully so.

Again if there is nothing you can do to “fix” this regretful action…time to move on. You can’t turn back time…what’s done is done. I tell my boys all the time that only you can make yourself feel bad. So my suggestion is stop beating yourself up.

The fact of the matter is you can’t change the past.

You can only change your behavior going forward.

So, every time you stat to think about the actions you regret, tell yourself the only thing you can do to make up for it is to not do it again.

If someone was hurt as a consequence of your actions, you can help others to make yourself feel better about it.

Wasting time thinking about the past is just that wasting time. If you want to make it better, talk to others (groups, schools, students) about your actions and your regrets to keep someone else from doing it in the future.

I haven’t hurt anybody, only myself, so it’s not about that. It’s simply not the way I wanted this to happen in my life and I am a little afraid of the consequences. But yes, I guess the best way is to move on. Easier said than done, though. I feel like I’m in an emotional rollercoaster.

Sometimes you can never really get over regret. The best thing you can do is make amends and apologize in a real and meaningful way to the person(s) you wronged. You can never expect anyone whom you have wronged to forgive you, although most people probably will. But if they don’t, let it go and don’t push them to forgive you. And from this day forward, vow to do better, much better in the future. Live an exemplary life.

In this case, since it was you who hurt yourself (maybe you could elaborate on that a little bit, because it does depend upon what hurt you caused yourself as to how to best deal with it) then try not to beat yourself up about it. If you continue to beat yourself up about it or dwell on it (without fixing any part of the situation that can actually be fixed) then you’ll just sink into a hole of depression. That will benefit no one. The deed has been done. If you feel remorse and you have vowed to not repeat the deed, then move forward. The only thing you can do, is lead a better life from this day forward.

Another thing that you can do is practice the concept of “Paying It Forward.” Do good and kind and useful things for other people, for animals, for your town, for your country, for the environment. It doesn’t have to be related to the thing that you did to yourself. It just makes you a better all around person. Plus it transfers your energy to positive things instead of negative things.

I hurt someone very much many years ago. I wrote to apologize every year for about 8 years and finally gave up. What I did was unforgivable and I accept the regret as my punishment for my thoughtlessness.