Does he like me? I need your opinion...

He just sounds freindly, doesn’t sound like hes interested but man up, grow some balls and just ask him if you are interested.

Being mean in front of his friends, poking you and your friend with a straw – he sounds like a real charmer.

There is really only one way to know if he likes you – ask him. I know, I know there is no way you could ever ask him that! But seriously think about giving it a try, it could really clear up some confusion.

I’ll tell you what though, unless the two of your are 10, his being mean to you in front of his friends is not cool at all and not to be tolerated.

@kimchi If he’s anything like me, he likes kimchi. But some people are really strange. They won’t even stay in the same room with kimchi. So if you care a bit for him and want to take it to the next step, you have to take @XOIIO‘s advise. Comboy up and ask him if he likes you.

But before you get to that, ask yourself if you want a relationship with a guy that sends mixed signals and acts immature around friends. That could wear on my nerves quickly, and I really wouldn’t want to have to move to some deserted corner of the world to live peacefully with my SO.

How could you see him fixing his hair when you aren’t around?

The only way to know if he likes you is to ask him. I agree, however, that teasing and being “mean” to you, and acting differently around his friends are all bad signs… I don’t care how old you are or he is, those are not positive habits.

Well, you certainly like him, so maybe that is enough information to go for it. Try to get some alone time with him to figure out if he is interested.

But be aware that you might just want to think that he likes you, so you see all of these signs.

If he is mean to you in front of others it can only mean that he is crazy about you. Go for it!

It sounds like he’d like to cop a feel from you, or even make out with you, but he’s also a little bit embarrassed to be seen with you, for whatever reason. He probably thinks you’re physically attractive, but he probably also thinks that his friends and other people might make fun of him for having a physical attraction to you.

I was reminded of another question from another young lady today, in which her friends were making rude comments about the guy she liked because he was a little scrawny and didn’t live up to their standards. He may be worried that for whatever reason, you might not live up to his friend’s standards. That isn’t the kind of fellow you should be encouraging.

The fact that he says mean things to you and teases you, makes me think he’s just out for a feel and doesn’t have any real feelings, or if he does, he’s being a real jerk about it. Don’t allow a guy to treat you like a jerk now, otherwise it will become a pattern for you.

Like the others have said, you kind of need to either distance yourself from him now, or come right out and ask him (in private) whether or not he likes you or not. If it seems like he does, then you need to nip this rude business in the bud and tell him that you don’t like it when he says mean things and makes fun of you, because it’s hurful and embarrassing. If he apologizes, then ask him if he’d like to go get a coffee or a soda sometime and see how it goes.

Here’s the bolder move. In private, ask him this, “Are you ashamed to be seen with me? If so why?” And then let him blather through his excuses. It will become quite clear to you, by his response where you stand with him.

@kimchi….When I was a teen…I could peel the end off a drink straw wrapper….push back just one inch of the straw….place that end in my mouth….then eyeball the girl I wanted and with a deep inhale….blow as hard as I could and the straw wrapper would fly across the room with the precision of a laser guided drone and hit her squarely in the forehead. Her look would give me that approval I needed to make my move and ask her out.

Unfortunately, some fuckhead thought the world would be a safer place and prudent to aerate straw wrappers so they could not errantly fly and poke somebodies eye out and took away all the fun we had.

So I guess you could just text the dude.

is he in third or fourth grade or something?

That’s around the age when boys do stuff like pulling the girls pigtails and lobbing spitballs to indicate to a girl that they like her. But by High School age most of them figure out more sensible means.

At the least he’s very very immature and at worst he’s not someone most girls could tolerate for very long.

As other’s have suggested, figure out a way to talk with him privately and, at minimum, stop treating you like crap. Let him know that if he cleans up his act, you’d be willing to go out with him and see how things go. This takes the pressure off him to declare officially that he likes you.

A few dates are just exploratory excursions for both of you to see if you want to continue. And at the least, hopefully he’ll knock it off with the stupid stuff. It’s only considered cute when kids are little.

It sounds like a crush to me. I remember this sort of stuff in high school, and the ever-aching wondering of whether they liked me or not. Drove me batty, but I loved every minute of it. Now my excitement comes from the boyfriend doing the dishes before I get home.

I say don’t be in such a rush to find out. Enjoy that young magical feeling while it lasts. Nothing feels better than finding out a boy likes you in this organic, cinematic way that will leave you with great stories to tell the kids some day.

Also, depending on your classification of him being “mean,” to you in front of his friends, it might not be as bad as it sounds. Even high school boys have to figure this stuff out. I know I had to kiss a few frogs before I found a… bigger frog. Just be mindful of his intentions behind it and if what he says around his friends is making you uncomfortable, then don’t hesitate to let someone know, or keep your distance if needbe. Sorry, had to go there.

Sounds like he likes you! Enjoy the moment!