When men ask if a particular woman likes them, should you always tell them yes?

Here’s irony: Tom Petty, Love is a Long Road. Just as you asked. Be honest. Real confidence is much bettter than scam confidence.

No, tell him the truth.

Then tell him you could get lost in his eyes. That’ll boost his confidence.

Turn this around to you. If you were crushing on a girl and your guy friend knew she didn’t like you, what would you want him to tell you?

I don’t go to my guy friends with women problems. I assume they are competition.

I predict disaster. I could see the disaster being amusing, but this seems to be a plot for a bad Romantic Comedy.

If I have to ask if she likes me I might as well hang it up.

I wouldn’t if I were you. I want my word and my reliability to be worth more than some “sense of confidence” I could create in someone (which can be pretty ephemeral) by potentially lying to him. If I believe it to be so then I might say that “she should like you; you’re a decent fellow” (or whatever I feel to be true). Or I might even tell him “you’d better hope that she doesn’t; I’ve seen what she does to the guys that she ‘likes’.”

If I had a fair sense that it was so, then I would agree with him that she “probably” likes him, based on what I can see. But since I am not in her head I can’t say for sure that she’s not using him as a stalking horse to dupe someone else into committing for her.

So, no. I would not answer your question affirmatively. I try to tell the truth, laced with tact, diplomacy and a little finesse.

I think if you really can’t tell if she likes you (suggesting you are fairly insecure and inexperienced) and your friend lies to you and says he thinks she does even though he really thinks she doesn’t, and you act on that lie you could end up making a complete dick of yourself.

No. Confidence is not thinking she likes you even though she really doesn’t. Confidence is being ok with yourself, even if she doesn’t like you back and rejects you. I wouldn’t want him to be all “well, she said no, but my friend said she really meant yes, so…”.

If he has a face like that of a bulldog licking piss off a thistle, i’d say honesty would work best.

Actually the majority of those do they like me questions have been asked by females. Personally I wouldn’t lie, and set them up for failure, which in turn will further damage a person’s self-esteem. Relationships need to be two-way streets, including starting them. I’ve never been with a woman who didn’t let me know that they liked me, or at least hit it off with. I’m for changing the system, not teaching people to play more games and coping with them.

As a friend, you can warn them about the possible outcome…tell them the truth… but if your guy friend is confident enough..it never hurts to try. I was into someone that many people told me to give up on and I ended up being with him for over four years ;)

Why does anybody have to ask if a guy or girl likes them? How can you not know?

Cognitive disability notwithstanding…

If they like you, they are probably interested in talking to you, have a kind word to say, are polite and somewhat caring etc. So why ask?

If they do not like you, they are probably distant, trying to avoid you, talking more than listening to you etc. So why ask?

If they like you, and they act like it, and you imagine that they do not, the problem is in you, not them. You can ask all day long and you still won’t believe the answer.

If they dislike you, and they act like it, and you imagine otherwise, you are probably ignoring or evading the usually obvious signs, so why not pay attention or face the facts.

And if they dislike you, but are pretending as if they do like you, well that is a tough break. But most people won’t waste time on a relationship that they have to constantly pretend is pleasant to them when it is not. The chances are pretty low that you have to worry about that one.