NSFW What is something you find strangely arousing you will never, ever, tell a partner?

Why would I tell you?

Hey, fucking give it a whirl. If you never try you never know. And just so you know, It feels so so so fucking good.

There isn’t anything that I can think of. I do have a bizarre fetish/interest that past partners have let me do, and have been enthusiastic about taking part in a sexually charged way. My husband knows about it, maybe not the extent of it, and although he has let me do it, it lacks the particular intimate element (and resulting sex) that make it a sexual fantasy… and not just a normal thing that people do.

I have always shared my desires with all my S/O’s…the only way you have a chance to have some real fun.

Well I’ve got some fetishes that just one partner couldn’t satisfy ;)

There are a number of things I haven’t brought up with all partners because I haven’t been with exclusively kinky people, but I don’t think there’s anything I wouldn’t bring up with the right person.

Hitler’s moustache.

Serious partners always hear about my fantasies. ;)

My partner & I are completely open about such things & that has worked out quite nicely. Secrets = trust issues = a partner still has too much to work on in order to be a serious or completely stable partner anyway. No one tells each other everything but there’s a difference between secrets/not telling due to fear or nervousness & things that we don’t tell cause they’re so insignificant even we ourselves forgot it.

I say tell your partner your desires & fantasies & if they’re not able to adjust or be into it then you (or they) can decide if it’s a deal breaker & move on from there. Believe me there’s someone out there who’s willing to try whatever fantasy imaginable with or without a partner.

I can say that if someone’s secret thing is children or other’s who can’t appropriately consent such as animals & the mentally disabled then perhaps the best person to tell about those sorts of things is a therapist. I’m never in support of those non-consenting scenarios though I’ve heard of situations where people will “play act” non-consenting situations out even tho everyone involved is actually a consenting human adult. There’s someone & something for everyone.

Yup, my wife knows them all, but there are a few she never wants me to mention again. :o

Sometimes, during sex, I have been aroused by the thought of my boyfriend with another woman. In reality I would be absolutely devastated by that but for some reason I have got off to the thought of it during sex. I would never tell him this because I don’t like the fact that I have felt aroused by it myself.

He knows everything else that arouses me and never objects to anything I want to try.

@Leanne1986 That’s not all that uncommon. Watching your partner having sex with someone else is a fantasy for a lot of people.

@Leanne1986: I second @Adirondackwannabe, that is indeed a common fantasy. No need to feel bad about it!

I got to watch my girlfriend have sex with her girlfriend a couple times…

I think I’ve pretty much told my husband all of it.

I don’t think I have any kinks at all anyway.

@WillWorkForChocolate what do we here at fluther not know? ;)

Oh ya, watching your partner with another, ya forgot about that one, don’t think I’ve shared that one much if any at all. My fire gets stoked pretty hot at the thought of this girl Abby and my wife together. Wait was that too much sharing.