What’s so weird is that my parents can’t carry a tune. I wish I had a recording of them singing “happy birthday” to show you. It is so bad you can’t possibly imagine. And yet….
My father decided to learn to play the recorder around the time I was 8 years old. He took a woodworking class that year, too. Funny, because he was a postdoc. You’d think he wouldn’t have time to take on a couple of new hobbies. But he did.
His recorder playing impressed me, and I wanted to learn a little. But the next year, they demonstrated all the instruments in class, and the instant I heard it, I knew which one was for me. I took lessons for the next ten years or so, through my first year in college. Unfortunately, the college I went to had a very strong music program, and so, if you weren’t a professional, you weren’t good enough. I stopped playing for fifteen years.
Then, serendipity struck.I hurt my back in a car accident and couldn’t dance. My chiropractor became a friend, and he came over to visit one day. He saw my instrument case, and asked to hear me play, since he was also a trumpet player. My lip was not strong, but I still had good tone, and he gave me a set of exercises to bring my chops back.
I started playing for the dance instead of dancing. I got better and better, and a number of other opportunities came my way. I probably could have been a professional if I had wanted to go that way. But I prefer being an amateur. I’ve played in a few little groups and done some recording. I play a number of other instruments, as well.
I’ve encouraged my children to learn piano as a starter instrument, since I always wished I coiuld play piano. We have musical evenings sometimes, and we can all write music. The kids make up songs and love to play. Sometimes my son drums with the dance workshop.
So, from a non-musical family to a musical family. I’m sure my parents would be good musicians if they had had training, but they didn’t, and so they are really bad. I’m sure that I’d be really bad, too, except that I’ve had a lot of training over the years.
Really, that’s the difference. Training and exposure and music around the house. If people work at it, they will become good. If they believe they can’t do it, they will be bad. Nonmusical.