There’s a difference between people who know a lot and people who are intolerant of those who know less than them. I’ve been around people who know a lot most of my life. I grew up in a university environment and I work in one. I’ve also hung out with people who know a lot online for most of the last thirty years and I’ve even worked in a think tank. People who were professionally smart, in other words.
I’ve met people with attitudes about those who know less. People can be very impatient when they don’t want to explain things they believe should be obvious. Sometimes they will take a very acerbic tone and act like they are trying to make you feel stupid and shut you up.
Fuck that shit. If you want to have a conversation, then talk to me. If not, go ahead and cop an attitude, but I will call you on it. But mostly my strategy was to ask them for information. I’m very open to learning, especially if you have something to teach me. And I’m generally interested in almost anything.
In my job, which is to be smart, I find that people often diminish their own knowledge and abilities, and it becomes my job to shore them up. Sometimes though, with my colleagues, I find they are being meaner about students than I think they should be, and I try to defend those they are being mean to.
It all depends, I think, on attitude. If someone comes to me and they have an opinion about something but they don’t know much about it, I’ll offer to educate them. If they still keep saying ignorant things, I’ll try to explain another way. But if they still maintain their ignorance, offering no reason for it, I take that as giving me permission to make fun of them.
That’s surely not very kind of me, but I only have so much tolerance for willful ignorance. And remember, this is willful ignorance. These are people who maintain an opinion for no reason. They don’t try to argue. They just know they are right because that’s the way they want it to be. I think that when someone remains willfully ignorant, they are cheating. And cheaters lose the right to fair play. They aren’t even trying.
On the other hand, there have been two or three people—all women—who told me privately that I intimidated them intellectually. Oddly, all of them liked me for it. So clearly intimidation was not a negative. I was pretty surprised, but I think that’s because for me intimidation is a bad thing, not a good thing. It has been hard to wrap my head around. But I guess you can be attracted to someone who intimidates you if you are not threatened by them otherwise.