My ex has texted me. I haven't replied. Is this just a test to see if I give in?

Yes, it’s a test. Don’t respond.

He accomplished his goal, he got you thinking about him.
Ignore it.

Yeah, if you don’t wear them, he should remember that unless he’s a total tool. Ignore and block.

Uh, welcome to Fluther.

I don’t think we know enough of the details about him or you to make snap judgments about what his motivations are. We don’t know how long you’ve known him, or how well, or whether he should be expected to know that you don’t wear necklaces. I sure didn’t know until just now that you don’t wear necklaces. I won’t be calling you, then, about the one I found under my bed. (Cross one name off the list, anyway.)

It very well may be a game that he’s playing. Maybe he knows that you never wear necklaces, in which case “I found a necklace,” is supposed to get you thinking, “Damn! He had someone else over there? Maybe more than one? He can’t keep track of them all any more? How long was this going on, I wonder?” and so on.

But, it may be innocent, too. I’m not going to pillory him from long distance when I don’t even know you.

Stick around, let us get to know you, and we might all be ready to tar and feather the bastard. Not today, though. Not just yet.

I’m sorry, but if you play this as a game, then he’s won. Is this the kind of thing he did before you broke up?

I would just text back saying it wasn’t mine and leave it at that. No more and no less than is required. I hope you aren’t saying you can’t communicate about things.

If you are suspicious that there is no necklace, I would still suggest the same thing. If he is somehow manipulating you, the best way to reply is with an absence of fakery. Just be straight forward and minimal.

It sounds like you suspect him of trying to mess with your emotions. Did he do the breaking off? Did you want to stay with him? Would you go back to him if he wanted you back? Do you think he is playing with you?

Really doesn’t matter, I don’t think. Play it straight. If he wants you back, then he’ll have to say so. Do not read anything into his actions. Make he say what he wants. Take no hints. Assume there are no hints. Assume everything is straight until he says otherwise. And I mean says not indicates. If you try to read tea leaves, you lose. So don’t even try. Just assume everything is as said, and leave it at that.

Text back: “Not mine.” See if he texts back and you’ll know if he’s playing games.

Don’t call, Don’t answer, as a matter of fact, ignore the number on your phone if you have the technical knowledge on your phone.

Given this question, http://www.fluther.com/147903/i-broke-up-with-my-boyfriend-yesterday-and-told-him-why/ you know what your answer should be.

<just read the linked question> uh…yeah…my answer and many others were right on. He is missing the milk, so is interested in you again.

You could respond “I’m pregnant with your child” and see how quickly he stops texting you.

I don’t know about this one . . . I could totally see him thinking, “maybe this didn’t end well and if this person realizes I have their necklace, they might stir up some trouble out of spite” etc.

If it’s not yours, a simple “no” would be courteous and get straight to the point. If he then continues to reach out to you, your question will be answered more definitively than anyone here on Fluther can do for you.

I’d say just to respond “no,” and THEN if he keeps going, don’t respond.

You know what it can also be? It can be him trying to make you jealous by letting you know that clearly other women have been at his place.

I think there are too many options to just focus on the one theory.

He is still not there yet on the break up. If he wants to have a relationship with you then he could move to where you are or he could have mentioned it when you were breaking up with him.

Just ignore his text.

Go back and get that necklace. It could be worth a small fortune! Totally tell him it’s yours.

He’s desperate trying to get you back if if youre certain it doesnt belong to you…

I thought the OP was Bellatrix at first…

No, no ex boyfriends have sent me texts trying to seduce me to come back to them with promises of long lost jewellery @FutureMemory :-)

^^ lol, me too. couldn’t figure out where her lurve went

He’s playing a game with you. He knows you don’t wear them so what he’s really doing is telling you he’s had other girls there.

I would text him back saying “Thanks Ron, go ahead and mail it to me, if you wouldn’t mind”

This kills 2 birds with 1 stone. You don’t have to see him or talk to him, and it will call him out of the fact that the necklace is not yours (if you’re 100% positive that it isn’t).

If he knows it’s not your necklace, then he’s just doing it to make you feel jealous. Even if you do feel jealous (just a tiny bit) don’t let him know that. Let him send you the other girl’s necklace. Because then he’ll feel like a dope for even attempting this. And likely, the other girl (who’s necklace it really is) will be pissed at him too.

He most likely won’t send you the necklace, because it’s not yours. But if he does, because he’s too dim to realize that it was someone else’s, then take it and keep it if you like it, or get rid of it at your leisure.

If he keeps on texting you, in what seems like an attempt to get your attention, just tell him that you feel it’s better if you dis-continued having contact with him so that you both can move on.