Should I stay at college (long question)

If you need to focus on other things, go do that. School and zooming through college is not as essential as many people think it is…Being one year, or more, behind is really not a big deal in the end. Don’t put that misconception in front of your own well being.

What about just taking a semester off to recover and get yourself together emotionally? There’s nothing wrong with taking a little break. Also, it sounds like you might be working and going to school at the same time. If doing both is too much, you could consider taking out student loans so you can focus on school.

One thing to remember is that degrees are largely door openers, and once you’re in a company, your performance will be more important than the degree you hold. You should think about what type of job you want to do and consider how much education you’ll need. Only you can decide if college is right for you. Talking it over with family and close friends could help you decide.

Are you in the British or American system? If the British, I’m not sure what to say, because I don’t know if you have as much flexibility as we have in the American system.

If you are in the American system, I would suggest taking a semester or a year off. Most schools will allow you to do that. But if you are in the British system, I don’t know if that is an option. I would try to find out if it is, because it seems like you are not going to do well if you stay at school, but it would be horrible if leaving meant you could never get a higher education again.

@wundayatta I’m in the British system. I’m not too sure either, but I could look into things. I do know that you can do college classes no matter what age you are. My mum’s friend did a college class when she was 55, and my friend’s mum did a college class when she was in her 40’s. But thanks for the help. :)

I wauld consider taking this term off; it does sound like you want and need to focus emotionally on other things.

It sounds like you are going through a very bad time. This is really no time to be making life decisions.

However, if you can’t concentrate, I would take a semester or a year off. But plan to go back. College is a precious time in your life. You can make new friends.

Definitely need to give yourself a bit of time…maybe a lot of time. Sorry that you’re going through some awful things right now. Only you of course can know inside what is the right thing for you to do right now.

However, I am British and I left University at the beginning of my second year for many reasons (personal, physical and mental health) and it wasn’t an easy choice. I decided to though in the end because I just wasn’t happy. I spoke to people about it and got offered an open place, so that I could return the following year if I wanted to… is this something you can look into? Unis do hold places open sometimes and your circumstances would warrant it I think.

Even if that isn’t an option and ultimately it is stay or go… you can always go back to University, nothing is ever that cut and dried. It sounds like you need some time to grieve and heal and be there for the people you love and for me that’s far more important that the education system. We should live with our hearts not our heads really… that’s what I think today anyway. You have the freedom to choose and then change your mind if you want…there are many paths…. xxx love and light

P.S I haven’t gone back yet (15 years later) and I don’t regret it…I’m doing a different degree right now…but I still might go back ..one day!...

Throw yourself into your college work it will help you long term in the end. Did your grandfather want to see you go to college maybe you could put it in your mind to focus on it in his memory. A bachlors degree is worth so much more in the working world than just some college.

I’m sorry for your recent and pending losses.

You’re young; you can do college any time. Spend the time you need now with your nana. You’ll never regret having been with her to the end. After you finish your grieving and you’re ready to face the world again, however hesitant you feel about that now, you can rededicate yourself to your studies, career, etc.

Do what you need to do. School will still be there when you are ready. Your nana won’t.

To me, it sounds like your choices are either A) take this semester off or B) fail/stumble through classes this semester. Neither of those may sound like good ideas by career standards, but I assure you that B is a far, far worse choice.

Sounds to me like you need to take the time off. Do you have an advisor at school to whom you can talk about your situation? He/she may be able to give you more realistic idea about your options.