Let’s look at an extreme: rape. How many people could have an orgasm when they were forcing their partner to participate? I think that probably 99% or rapists are men. So for these men, psychologically speaking, a warm connection with their partner seems unnecessary.
Now let’s talk about prostitution. Again, probably more than 90% of customers of prostitutes are male. I don’t think there are many women willing to pay for sex. Now, can these men simply disrobe and do the deed and orgasm? No. Most of them require the prostitute to seduce them to some degree. That’s why prostitutes are mostly coquettes of some sort in bordellos.
I think street prostitution is the the closest to your scenario. Pick up a girl on the side of the road, find a place to park, and she blows you. I think it is the excitement of the conquest that keeps such men hard and excited. Even if they are paying, they still get to choose which girl on the street corner they want. Then they get to make her do the nasty. It’s probably not that hard to get off on it, although there are probably many men who would not be interested, or simply couldn’t even get an erection under the circumstances.
It might be easier for men to do it over the internet. You’re in privacy in your own room, and the girl is in privacy in her room. It’s kind of like porn. She takes off her clothes and contorts and tells you she loves your big dick and wants you to do all kinds of nasty things to her. Meanwhile you masturbate and, well, yeah. That’s what it is. Masturbation.
So is fucking a whore. Except instead of the image of a woman, you have a live woman. But it’s still masturbation in terms of what goes on in your mind.
The mind is the key. Men can get off on all kinds of fantasies and some are capable of meeting a live woman and enacting their fantasy on her. This works especially well when her job is to help him enact his fantasy. You’ve got two people working on the same fantasy. Is it any wonder it works?
Frankly, I bet it could work for women, too. It would require a number of conditions that figure in female fantasies. I think for most, safety would be important. They’d want not to have to worry about physical safety or being hurt or getting pregnant.
I think emotions would be key. You’d need to make the woman feel warm and safe and loved. There must be short cuts to achieve this fantasy. But soft touches and kisses and massage and all that kind of thing. You couldn’t have the male urgency. There’s a formula for women probably as much as there is for me. Women are harder, but if you were a gigolo, I bet you could learn how to reliably get women to get off.
Of course, most women wouldn’t do this. They probably don’t think their personal sexual gratification is worth $100 or whatever it costs. They wouldn’t allow themselves to have the pleasure. But if they did, they would probably understand the game and know how to play it in a way that works for them. This is not therapy. It’s sex. So women with a problem wouldn’t play. Only those who could reliably get off, and who were just looking for eye and hand candy to help them masturbate. A woman who knew her vibrator quite well and was looking for a little trustworthy flesh to fill her up might be interested in this product. I doubt if many women would, but there definitely would be some.