How do you know if a guy truly cares about a girl?

My little cupcake, you must take a break from all this.
The way you will know of a guy really likes you is if he sticks around for months without sexual pressure because he wants to get to know ALL of you, not just the parts that spark.
Id someone REALLY likes you they will not pressure you to go further than you are comfortable with.

Why are you with guys, if not sexual compatibility?

What is the criteria you have for when you really like a guy, and are not just with him because you want an orgasm? Apply that to him in reverse.

If he contacts you after the first time you sleep together.
If he doesn’t pressure you at all to sleep with him the first few months, maybe even the first year.

He still contacts her and cares for her, even when she is not feeling great, or being her best.

Only time will tell. A guy has to stick it through some tough times with you. And vice versa.

That was always my test for a girl. Things would go along pretty well for a little while. But at some point, you hit the first big fight. It’s whether and how you make it through that that I used as an indicator of how much she really cared.

This could happen early on in a relationship—within a month—or it might be six months or even longer before you hit this first big fight. But the way you resolve the issues of the fight will tell you how much the other person truly cares and what their problem solving skills truly are.

Sex really has very little to do with it. Sex is not any kind of meaningful litmus test, as far as I’m concerned. Nope. It’s the fight. And you can’t force the fight. It happens when it happens. Then you see what the other person is really like.

An old and trite adage: “Time will tell.” Take it slow. You won’t, but that’s the only true test. If one morning, 20 years from now, he’s still there, he cares!

A guy that really cares won’t turn to tricks to get the girl. He’ll be honest and upfront with you. And he’ll be willing to invest some time in you. And he won’t lay out conditions beforehand. He’ll love you for you and accept you as a person.

I dont know guys… some men will do anything to get into your pants…and once thats done…they’ll keep you around until they find something better. So calling back, texting back…does not mean anything sometimes. Really depends who are dealing with. A trickster basically. Unfortunately i wasted a whole year with one. Its all about finding the right person :)

When I was single and evaluating the state of a relationship with a man I was seeing I used to ask myself two questions.

1. Can I see myself sitting with this person on a park bench, talking about the world, when I am 70? If I couldn’t I didn’t view the relationship as terribly serious from a romantic perspective. That might have been fine if I wasn’t looking for something to serious but it did help me sort the chaff from the wheat.

2. Does this person cherish me? I think we all deserve to feel cherished by those we are romantically committed to. I cherish my husband and I absolutely feel treasured by him and have from day one really. I have always felt respected, cared for and later loved.

@snapdragon24 Oh I’ll do everything to get into a woman’s pants, once I fall in love with her. But when she gives me her all she get’s my all.:)

Uhhm, I was going to say that it’s not guys that play tricks on girls to get what they want, so much as it’s girls who play tricks on guys to get what they want. And what young guys and girls want is very different from what mature men and women want.

Like I said before, most guys are usually pretty up front about what they want and don’t want. It’s us girls that read into what they say that gets us into trouble.

On the other hand, girls (stupid or naive or desperate ones, and I’ve been all 3 at one time or another) will do and say just about anything to get a guy to fall in love with them.

Most younger guys (with a few wonderful exceptions) just don’t care that much. They will, however use cutesy lines to get you into bed with them. And they might say that they’re “falling in love with you” as opposed to “I’m in love with you and I want to spend the rest of my life with you.”

But when you’re young and naive and desperate, you will tend to equate the two statements. They are not the same. The first statement means that they might be falling in love with you (and several other girls at the same time) or they they might not be falling in love with you ( it was just indegestion or lust, or both). When they go out on a limb and say that they are in love with you and want to spend the rest of their life with you, you can expect that that is what they mean (at the exact moment they said it, although in the morning they might not feel that way anymore, and might not remember saying it).

@Adirondackwannabe that’s the way it’s supposed to be ;)