When and under what conditions is it OK to ask a woman to go steady?

Surely let a little more time pass. When and if you both decide to have sex, that may be the moment to discuss what that implies about your relationship. Before letting the good times roll…

(You mean a woman, I hope.)

@gailcalled yes I know its to soon now. Yes I did mean a full grown real actual WOMEN

@mrlaconic; Surely you still mean a woman?

If you want to be exclusive, just ask her if she’s seeing anyone else. If she says yes or no, she’ll still ask you why you asked. My bf asked if I was his girlfriend on date 3. Of course, I spent the night dates 1 and 2.

There’s really no right or wrong time or way. It’s when you feel it’s right and comfortable. When you feel like you can ask her freely? That’s the time.

On the condition that it is 1950. You are too old to be thinking like that. Just keep dating her and let her know you are interested, subtley, in making things more permanent.

The words steady and woman in the same sentence were confusing to me in the same sentence. Then I see you are 30. More confusing to me still. Usually things just follow a natural progression, and you kind of now you are being exclusive with each other. I guess I always assume exclusitivity when I am dating someone unless the person states otherwise. But, that’s me.

I would think the discussion would happen before sex since you don’t want to be sleeping with many different people all at one time.

People go steady these days? I thought that the concept ceased to exist in the 1960s. Now people have sex on the first date, which sort of put the kibosh on the meaning of steady.

I think that what you[‘re asking as about a ‘committed relationship’ – but that’s something that grows on the two of you. Not something where there s a hard and fast rule.

You may ask when you have established good open communication with her—the kind of communication that allows you to talk about anything. If you do not feel you can talk about it, then you are not ready to go steady.