I have had some color choice a few times.
One time I had to choose brick color, doors and shutters, and siding. I really like brown brick, but almost the entire neighborhood was some shade of red so I went reddish. I also picked a fairly neutral siding color, and black for front door and shutterm which was what most people chose. It was a developement where the houses where fairly close together, and sticking out like a sore thumb would have been ill advised for resale I think.
Another time we chose from a selection of colors approved for the neighborhood. I wanted a brownish color, seems to be my theme, but my husband wanted the orangish one. It was Florida, what can I say? So, we lived in an orange house. It didn’t stick out though. The neighborhood controlled how often a color could repeat, etc.
I recently repainted my house. I stuck with the colors it had originally been painted, even though I wanted to slightly change the greyish trim to more brown. I actually live in a brown house now, the brick is slurried brown and the trim is a very dark grey, with just a hint of brown in it, but mostly grey. The bits of siding are a cream, just short of yellow color, and also a mustard color. I live in the woods, and the dark grey on the trim blends with the trees when they turn grey for the winter. I did darken up the shutters and door to a very deep dark walnut brown. I love it! I like when wood looks rich and dark and like furniture in my mind. Before those things were more of a midbrown with a hint of orange.
I guess basically I am for blending in. Whether it be with the neighborhood, or with the scenery. It really depends on the specific neighborhood which way I go.
If it is typical to have colorful houses, I would probably go very colorful. If it is typical to be muted and blend in with the landscape I would do that.
I never really look to be different when it comes to house color, it has more to do with what I personally like and feel is smart as an investment. A very colorful house that is atypical for the area can give off the impression of lower class or minority. I know that is awful, but it is true. It really depends on the area of course, what is normal, and what stereotypes are out there.