Sometimes it is an unwitting mistake to take a job you hate. You do it for all the right reasons: to take care of your family; to be a productive member of society. But what you forget is that you are not a cog in a machine. You are a person.
These kinds of jobs can wear you down, fill you with stress, depress you, and eventually disable you. Sometimes, they depress you so much, that some people have killed themselves.
In the long run, that isn’t helping your family. That isn’t achieving the things you set out to achieve.
My wife’s last job was soul-killing, and we didn’t really realize it. Rather, I realized it, but she felt she had to do the noble thing. I knew she was miserable, but I had no idea how miserable. Finally, she realized how bad things were and asked if she could quit, and I said, “Finally! I’ve been waiting for you to quit for a long time.”
In the last year at work, she had gone on anti-depressants. She had stopped understanding my jokes. She had stopped wanting to do anything fun. She just doggedly took care of the kids.
Within a few months of quitting, she was laughing again. Somehow, I had become funny again. She went off the anti-depressants and the sleeping pills and she was sleeping better and feeling happier and happier.
That job nearly took my wife from me. And I’m sorry, but no amount of money is worth my wife. People may think they are doing the noble thing, but in my experience, people way discount the importance of their own mental health. They think they are much stronger than it is possible for people to be.
A job like that destroys your soul, and I say that as an atheist. If you lose your soul, you get depressed and if you get depressed, you could potentially end up losing your life. You could end up on disability.
People do what they have to do, or so the cliche goes. I think you’re playing a dangerous game when you consider taking a job that will destroy your soul just for money. Money is important, of course, but the person is far more important than as a wage-earner. There is always another way. The only excuse for doing something like this is ignorance. If you do it, do it with your eyes wide open, and be prepared for hell.