How to overcome shyness around women?
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I once read about a very famous therapist who was trying to cure his shyness with women and he spent numerous days at a park asking out every woman who sat down on a bench next to him. And he got rejected a ton, but he also had some success, and came to realize what was making him so shy was the fear of rejection. And once he could deal with the rejection, he could overcome the shyness. So the point is, just get out there and start dating--the more practice you have, the better you'll get. Internet dating is usually a good way to ease into things, since you start off with the less-high-pressure email interaction. Rejection is going to happen--it happens to everyone--but the more you're out there, the less that will come to mean.
Shyness can also be a sign of low self esteem, if this is the case, just work on your confidence, observe people who are confident, their mannerisms, their body language, their attitude and practice in front of a mirror. I lack confidence a lot, and people always see me as a very confident and strong person! If you don't have it, fake it! Also don't be afraid of rejection, if a woman says no its either you re not her type which is quite normal, as everyone goes for a type of person or another, or maybe she's not up to it. Just think "its your loss, you don't know what you're missing". Keep having small talk with women, if the situation arises, on a bus stop, in an elevator, on the supermarket and if it gets weird or uncomfortable for you just remove yourself politely from the situation with a smile or pretend you re busy thinking of something else or doing something else, like checking your mobile for example. Hope it helps!
My revered mother used to tell me that shyness is a word we use to substitute
for the correct self-diagnosis: Special Person Syndrome. Why would you
expect everyone to like you? Everyone doesn't even like me, and I'm utterly fabulous.
As labesilol points out, everyone gets rejected. It's not about you when you get rejected by someone who doesn't even know you.
Women are a lot like you. Could you treat them as you would want to be treated? Por que no? You will actually find that everyone you meet finds you adorable.
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Trying going out a bit more. Join a club…meet up and go out more with your friends. Over time you’ll find that you’ll eventually overcome the shyness. Be strong :)
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