I turned 13 in 1979, and I think it was that Christmas that I was given my own phone and phone line. I had a combo record-player AM/FM Hi-Fi system that was a hand-me-down. I was on the phone listening to WNEW 102.7 FM out of New York City the following December when John Lennon was shot. Around 1983, I got a boom box with a cassette player that I had for about a decade.
I didn’t have a TV in my room. In fact, my mom splurged for our first color TV for the family in 1980 or ‘81 when cable TV first came to our suburbs. When I went away to college at age 18, I got a little B&W TV with a single telescoping antenna.
Another luxury item was having my own roller skates and membership to the local rink.
My older brothers bought the first Atari and the first Macintosh computer when they came out, so I had access to technology, but it wasn’t mine.
•••• I became a mom in 1991, days before my 25th birthday…
My son got his first cell phone at 12, because I hated not being able to reach him when he went to his friends’ houses because someone was using the computer (most people still had dial-up then). He would only have it outside of school, and at bedtime, it went on the charger that I kept in my bedroom.
I refused to let him have a TV in his room until he was 13, and even then I would not buy it for him. So he spent his birthday money on that. I ran the cable TV from a splitter in my room, and would disconnect it at bedtime or when he was in trouble.
I gave him my old computer when I upgraded when he was 10, but he had no Internet in his room then. My next upgrade was 5 years later, and he was in High School, so I did allow Internet then. I always had Parental Controls on the computers, so he couldn’t access much.
I think we put the Dreamcast in his room when the PS2 came out. Then we put the PS2 in his room when he was around 15 because no one else really used it.
The first iPhone came out shortly after his 16th birthday, so I paid for half of that as his birthday gift, and he paid the other half. I bought him the 3Gs two years later as a combo 18th birthday and HS graduation present. He bought the 4s with his own money.
I needed a new car when he was 15, so I decided that rather than getting a really nice car then is getting him a clunker when he got his license at 17, that I woul buy a decent, affordable, safe car to drive and for him to learn to drive in, then give that to him after he became licensed and once it was paid-off, and then buy myself my own nice car. So in 2008 he got a 2007 Jeep Compass with 45,000 miles on it, and I had some peace of mind knowing that the vehicle he was driving was well-maintained and had good safety features. He got $6000 for it when he traded it in to buy his own car last year – with no co-signer and his own insurance.
Considering that I was a single mom who had gone through bankruptcy, he was pretty spoiled; but he was always involved in the decision making and understood the sacrifices and compromises that were being made. He’s good with his money as a result, and he takes pretty good care of his stuff.