Why do some people think its weird to be a tomboy and have boys think of you as a bud?

What is a bud?

@gailcalled buddy perhaps???

Because there are a lot of people who don’t understand why people don’t follow gender “norms” and try to be just like everyone else. We wouldn’t want people to be their own person and not someone else’s idea of a utopian clone army.

(buddy)
I don’t know the answer unless it’s because they have a preconceived idea of how girls are supposed to behave. Are they afraid a girl might become a lesbian she doesn’t do more feminine things? I always preferred playing with the boys. They were more physical and did more interesting things than the girls I knew. The boys explored, climbed trees, played soccer, wrestled, built forts, had snowball fights, slid down hills and I thoroughly enjoyed that. Staying inside playing with dolls was NOT my thing. I never got criticized for this. I enjoyed boys more than girls. Still do, but I also have women friends now. They are NOT ultra feminine types.

I don’t think it is weird to be a tomboy at all. Most girls I know are both tomboyish and girly all at once. I climbed trees, road my bike, was friends with boys, almost every photo of me when I was young was me in pants or shorts. Not because I would not wear a dress, but because pants are more practical for kids running around on a playground or riding a bike. I did have dresses and like make-up and other girly things, but the girls who didn’t I barely noticed they didn’t.

Bud means buddy.

Anyone who thinks that is probably living back in the 1950s. Mentally, anyway. In the old days, a lot of people thought it was bad for girls to play rough and wear jeans and get dirty. Girls were supposed to wear clean dresses and play with dolls and easybake oven. There were plenty of other stereotypes, too, but I’m too tired to think about them. It’s all bs, anyway.

There are still leftover people who still think girls should be girls and boys boys. They think that lesbians are bad. They think that boys need to grow up to be breadwinners and make all the decisions and girls should be helpmeets. Whatever that is.

These are the people who freak out when a girl likes doing things that are traditionally associated with buys. They are weirded out by tomboys. I say f—k ‘em. We don’t need to pay any attention to people who are that inhumane and don’t care for anyone else, except as a stereotype. Let them stew in their own juices. You should do what you want as far as busting through sex stereotypes.

It’s not weird at all. I think it’s actually healthy. I’d much rather my daughter build blanket forts or build things from sticks, climb trees, ride a skateboard, have a few skinned knees and be friends with boys than spend her time clambering with other insecure girls for the queen bee’s approval. But if she has girlfriends, I much prefer her to be friends with other girls who build blanket forts or build things from sticks, climb trees, ride a skateboard, have a few skinned knees and can get along with boys.

Because we are taught and encouraged to conflate: anatomy, gender, gender expression, and sexual preference/practice/‘orientation.’ Tom boys, sissies, gay people, trans people, non-gender-conforming straight people, mess it up for everyone else whose self-concept is comfortably reinforced by this system.

They think it’s weird because a lot of people think girls should look and act like girls. I’ve been more of the tomboy type and most of my friends are guys, there are definite benefits and drawback to both. Just be careful you don’t end up being in the ‘friend zone’ with someone you really like, or alienate all your girlfriends either, they’re kind of important later in life.