It kind of depends upon who the message was sent to and the relationship the recipient has to the sender.
I think if a guy sends a mushy romantic and/or disgustingly sexual message to a female that the guy is interested in (but hasn’t yet dated, or maybe only dated a couple of times) he can only attempt to apologize and hope for the best, but he shouldn’t expect a good outcome. If he sends that same message to a woman he’s already been involved with for a fair amount of time, he’s going to have a better chance of simply telling her that he was indeed drunk and having a goofy, emotional moment and that he didn’t mean to be so gross. If the woman knows him well, she’ll either let it go, or she’ll tell him to take a hike if she’s never heard anything as disgusting before.
It’s possible, but most girls wouldn’t send a disgustingly sexual message to a guy that she likes (but hasn’t yet dated, or maybe only dated a couple of times) it’s more likely that she would send an “I love you” or a “Want to have your children” or something equally romantic, but way too soon kind of message. She too is going to have a hard time explaining how what she said wasn’t really what she meant. If the guy really likes her too, she might be able to explain that she was having a drunken emotional moment (due to stress at work, her sister or best friend getting married or fill in the blank) and that she would some day like to have that kind of relationship, but she’s more than interested in taking it slowly and day by day.
If the person sent a gross/disgustingly sexual/romantic message to a friend of the same sex (whether or not the sender was actually interested in hooking up with the friend) they’re going to have to do a lot of apologizing for being a drunk (this one actually happened to my female friend). In my friend’s case, the drunk message sender called her up the next day and apologized for being a drunk and being stressed and that she was going to quit drinking and get her messed up life in order. My friend thanked her for her honesty, but then dropped her as a friend, immediately. She was a wee bit homophobic. I think most guys would be even more homophobic than the average female friend, but maybe not. From my experience, my homophobic friend was mostly disgusted by the inappropriate drunkeness and didn’t want to be around a crazy drunk. I think most straight males would be completely humiliated and disgusted if a drunk male friend came onto them (even if they knew the person was drunk and not actually interested in them in that way). So the gay males who send the drunken messages are going to have a harder time than the drunken lesbian females.
If a drunken gay person, male or female, sends a gross/romantic/sexual message to another gay person, it kind of depends upon whether or not they are in a relationship with the recipient of the message, but I think the gay people might have a better chance of explaining what happened than the straight people would. Gay people already have enough crap thrown at them, that they would probably tend to be more understanding of whatever might have compelled the sender to send the message. A big fat apology for being inappropriate with a few reasons for what compelled them (loneliness, depression, general lust) to send the message.
Sending any type of inappropriate drunken message to one’s boss is about as bad as it gets. If the person is a full time employee, it’s possible that there will be some type of intervention offered to the sender. If the employee is a temporary or at will employee, it’s likely that no matter what is said, as an explanation, that person will no longer be employed (I witnessed this one too, thank goodness it wasn’t me LOL)
Sending a mean (or gossipy message about another relative) drunken message to a relative is bound to get you un-invited from future family parties, and a very contrite apology complete with a very detailed list of what you are going to do to solve your problems and make amends is about the only way to not be excommunicated from your family.
