Have you ever been in love with someone who was very popular with the opposite sex(or same sex), maybe even had a partner, and what did you do?

I’m in love with someone who is currently single, but has told me he is just awful at romance and relationships. Because I’m a passionate hopelessly romantic fool, I continue to love him. But we are separated by an ocean, so it’s not like we could have a relationship anyway. I’d still chase him if given half the chance, because I find him exquisite, and I love to love, and suffer. Keeps life interesting, at least…

In the distant past, meaning when I was 14, I was in love from a distance for more than a year with a girl who was in a relationship with an awful guy. She was also quite a flirt and intensely desirable to other guys. I thought I had no chance with her and just suffered from a distance, until I found out from a mutual friend that she had broken up with the guy, and had a crush on me!

I am in love with a woman who is a real attention getter from the opposite sex. She has had a couple of partners including a previous marriage. I pursued her until she just sort of gave up. Best thing that ever happened to me.

Growing up there was this very handsome boy in our “rival” (used here loosely) middle school and every girl who knew him had a crush on him – and they all made sure everyone knew. I always found him cute, but never developed a crush on him, something I was very proud of – that is, until junior high. Where I grew up, starting in junior high all the way through to the 12th grade, you’re placed in a classroom based on your birth month and you have the same class mates until you graduate high school. Well, my birthday is in July and his in August, so our classrooms were right next to each other. I was good friends with his sister, who is 1 year younger than us, and over time I became friends with him and we would walk home from school together every day. Eventually, I began crushing on him and would spend my days dreaming about him. I never told him about my crush, but I’m sure he must’ve figured it out at some point thanks to the hearts I would draw with our names written inside on the walls near his house which, by the way, are still there…several years later lol His sister knew of my crush and to this day, whenever I see her (not very often as we now live in different countries and only see each other whenever we go back home) she teases me endlessly about it. This past February I was in the old country visiting my family for a few months and we hung out a few times and talked and reminisced about the old days, but to this day I have yet to tell him of my (former) crush on him. Especially since he now has a girlfriend lol

Yes I have and I married him. I was terribly jealous and young. He had dated beauty queens and models before me. I felt awful. So much less than what I am. He was also just a popular guy with both sexes, we couldn’t walk down a street without several chats. He was very good looking himself which also called a lot of attention. However, I in later years do not judge my feelings or insecurities now, on his looks or persona. I realize he had a few flaw regardless. Like being unfaithful. I did for years judge good looking guys badly on this experience. I have since tried not to. Luckily though, I am more drawn to quirky strange looking men!!

Yes, my story is similar to @Shippy.‘s
I was madly in love with an incredibly good looking guy in my late teens and early 20’s. He moved to L.A. and had scads of model and centerfold girlfriends and we went our sepearte ways for over 25 years. I married and divorced someone else during that time and we hooked up again and enjoyed a 2 year relationship.

He was still just as hot and sexy at 48 as he was at 20 something. We dropped the relationship due to work and geography related issues but man….best sex of my life. lol
We are still very close and he would do anything for me.

I’m much more screwed up than that…I’m in love with someone who is interested in their own gender (don’t know if it’s exclusively), and in a relationship…Sigh!

This question is so vague and confusing that I’m not sure if I have any relevant experience. I have only had one relationship with someone who seems to attract male attention from random admirers. But it was kind of funny, because the more I loved her, the more attractive she got. My love made her feel good, and when she felt good, she lit up, and when she lit up, guys would notice, and stare or whistle or make comments. Now when I was there. But she would tell me about it. It made me proud of her. Never bothered me.

But most of my girlfriends were serious women only. They never got into vivacious mode, and they didn’t attract that kind of attention. I loved them because they were interesting, but eventually their intellectuality turned out to be a problem, since they weren’t that in touch with their bodies and feelings.

I’ve also had numerous virtual relationships with married women. We’re all pretty much looking for the same thing: a way to stop being lonely. Our marriages have become less that what we might have wanted. We meet someone who is interested; we start talking; we assuage each other’s loneliness for a little while and then we have a fight or push each other away, and it’s over.

There are, I’m sure, problems with virtual relationship, but these were also useful, I think, for all parties involved. It’s better than breaking up a marriage for nothing. Eventually I discussed this with my wife, which led us to counseling and other such treats. We’re still together, and she is pretty happy with me, despite all that we went through.

The first great love of my life was my best friend. He was terribly popular with the girls, but never seemed to find someone he wanted to be serious with. Rumours flew for years about who he might be in love with, and then it got to the point that people just assumed that he and I were going to end up together. Thick as thieves, we two were. Eventually the awkwardness caused us to drift apart. I eventually got married and I haven’t seen him in years.

He finally came out of the closet shortly after I got married. I can’t tell you the relief I felt when I realised that there wasn’t something wrong with me, but that he was just gay. Sheesh, if he’d have told me that when we were 13… how my life might have been different.

I’m in love with someone who really is beautiful (both inside and out…as cheesy as that sounds). But yeah, he really is good-looking. Whenever I’m with him, there’ll always be some silly younger girls walking past and giggling idiotically. My mum’s friends always tell him how attractive he is. Also, my best friend (who doesn’t know of my feelings for him) literally just stood and stared at him. I mean really, truly, full-on STARED for like, 5 minutes. I was so embarrassed for her. On his Facebook page, there are endless photos of him surrounded by girls. I always feel incredibly jealous, but I try to look at it in two different ways. The good way: he looks uncomfortable whenever he recieves any kind of attention, bless him (he’s very shy). The bad way: one day, he’s very probably going to like the attention and act on it – and seeing as I try and keep it cool and never so much as give him a second glance, chances are he won’t be acting on it with me!

^ Immature, still kinda hurt me says: Gay.

Grown up, sort of over it me says: Just tell him already. If you don’t, you’ll be kicking yourself in the arse for not asking and finding out he’s gay ten years ago so you could date the other guy who was not quite as cute but totally in love with you.