There are people who take an edgier approach to things. Political radicals are more likely to feel a need to say such things because they believe in being in your face. It’s consciousness raising.
I can understand your point of view, too. I understand your concerns, as well. I won’t say any one person is right or wrong, because I think it depends on the context at the time, as well as the strategy a person is taking.
Personally, I don’t tend to be in your face that much. More so on fluther than anywhere else because it is anonymous, but even so, I still want people to like me to some degree, and while I am willing to piss off a few people, I don’t want to make most people angry. I do piss off a few people, but it usually turns out that there are specific reasons why they are so touchy about whatever it is that I said. That is what it is. I’m not nice enough to try to be nice to everyone. If I don’t like what a person stands for, then it’s hard to be totally nice.
But if I were as radical as my beliefs, I would be in people’s faces all the times. I wouldn’t care about the consequences. I wouldn’t care about my safety. I wouldn’t care about making people angry. I would always stand up powerfully for what I believe. Instead, I have to stand up quietly, and thus lose out because I am unwilling to knock anyone’s head off. At least I’m still alive, though.
I think that reclaiming labels has helped in some cases. I think “queer” has been reclaimed. And “gay.” Not sure about how it’s working with respect to “nigger.” A lot of people don’t like that word. It’s a kind of ghetto thing, and so middle class blacks don’t seem to use it as much, except when establishing street cred. “Slut” might be more like “nigger” than “queer.”
But I’m attached to the goal, not the strategy. So if there’s a better way of becoming sex positive, and not making women feel bad because they’ve had a lot of sex partners, I would love to hear about it. Personally, I don’t see a woman who has a lot of sexual experience as a bad thing. I don’t see working in the sex industry as a bad thing. I doubt I could handle it if my wife was a porn actress, but I know it wouldn’t bother me if I met someone who was very experienced, as long as they were able to use sex in the context of love, and not as some kind of recreational thing.
I wonder how many partners you need to have before people think of you as a slut. I wonder why men get to be sluts without being called sluts, but women think they have to be virginal and pure. It bothers me. Double standard. I think it hurts all of us to think that way, although I don’t know how to justify that thought.