Would it be appropriate to consult a therapist in my case?

Yes, ask your primary doctor for a referral.

If so many people that are close to you recommended it, I would definitely consider it as an option to try out. But I think it’s important that you do what you feel is right for you. If you feel strongly against it, maybe it’s not a good option for you.

If on the other hand you’re not sure, why not try it out and see how it goes? What do you have to lose? You’ll be paying your therapist (I presume) so one way or another you won’t be wasting his time. And you can quit or change it at any time you like to. You’re fully in control.

By repeating that your problems are too insignificant to warrant attention, you are devaluing yourself.

A first step is to ask yourself why you do this. Then, of course, get some help. Whyever not?
A therapist will not be your friend; he or she will be a professional who commands a professional fee.

Just like the orthopod who sets your broken arm, whether you deem it a worthy break or not.

Not denial so much as low self esteem that is probably related to depression. Your problems aren’t significant enough, and of course, you have no idea what kinds of problems other people have. You have no basis for comparison, and yet are convinced yours aren’t bad enough.

It’s not your job to entertain the therapist. It is the therapist’s job to help you. If you are paying for the therapist, then they will try to help you, unless they don’t think they can. I have a friend who is a therapist who has “fired” patients. So I would say you shouldn’t worry. If the therapist thinks the fit is wrong, they will recommend you see someone else.

But otherwise, anyone who is even thinking about it, will probably benefit from therapy, Many people will have difficulty trusting a therapist, and so it often takes a half dozen or more sessions before you feel like you can open to it.

I didn’t do that. I went into therapy with the attitude that this is my employee. I know they are required by HIPPA to keep everything I say confidential. They are for me, so I started talking about everything right away. I had had training on fluther, so that helped. I learned to talk about everything on fluther, and it didn’t kill me. In fact, it helped. So I transferred that skill to a real therapist, as well.

Try it. Keep an open mind. Tell them what is on your mind. Ask for help in dealing with the problems that are bothering you. Work on it. Over time, there should be improvement, and if there isn’t, maybe you need a different therapist. That’s very common.

Good luck!

Yes, please go see a therapist for the reasons so eloquently outlined by all those above.

If it makes you feel any better, I had reservations too but was thankful that I did it anyway. And, it did help.

I think you should. No one has to live with feelings like that! But, like @orlando mentioned, you are fully the one in control. It may seem, at first anyway, like it’s a waste of time. After a while, though, take a step back and look more closely. You might be surprised. I was so busy feeling like I was “too smart for therapy” to help, but it turned out to be one of the best things I’ve done.

I think every thinking person on earth should have therapy at least once. (Or more if they can afford it).

In any case, I’m not really happy this way, so you’re right, I guess I should give it a try. Maybe my sister will come with me for the first session, she suggested this when she first told me that she thinks it should consider therapy, because she hasn’t been feeling that good either. Then we can support each other. Maybe it is low self-esteem, when my teachers talked to me at school they were convinced that my school-skiving had to do with my thinking that I was not good enough to make it until the A-levels anyway, which they think derives from wrong self-evaluation. I think it’s just fear that makes me think a therapist might not see my condition as therapy-worthy. Thanks for nudging me in this direction- I think this will make it easier to convince myself of giving it a try.

No therapist will give you a twofer unless you are officially in family counselling.

You and she are two separate people.

Therapy is an individual process. You definitely should go. You deserve to feel better.

@gailcalled Okay, didn’t know that, then I will try it by myself, thanks.

Go.

Actually, I go to therapy with my son & husband, every time they ask me to, or their therapist asks me to.

If you @scuniper, are either in denial or are uncomfortable being alone with the therapist for your first session, by all means tell the therapist that when you are scheduling the appointment.

If your sister knows you well enough to help you verbalize where you are in your journey right now, then she may help get the ball rolling. The therapist may have her in for half or all of your session.

No matter what, your first therapy session should be comfortable enough for you to open up. Yes, I think it is imperative that you seek counseling.

@scuniper Yes give it a try. First it does no harm. It might help a lot. I’ve been through some rough stretches and fought through it myself, thinking asking for a little assistance is a weakness. I’ve come to see how dumb I can be. I made it through. I also made it harder on myself. If you’re asking this question it’s time to look into a little help. Go. Please.

Yes, go, it can be a great support when life is buffeting you around.
I agree, everyone should go to therapy at least once in their life.
I found my experience very supportive and validating when I went through a rough period about a decade ago.
Best wishes!

Thank you everybody. I’ll make an appointment on Monday. And @SpatzieLover, my sister definitely knows me well enough so that I can talk openly with her there, and also, she always has a calming effect on me. Whenever I was afraid to go to school with less than perfect homework for example, she told me “they won’t rip your head off” which sounds blunt, but is still what I repeat to myself when I have to face someone whom I might disappoint or provoke. Which is why I think she would help there. And apart from that, she is considering seeing a therapist as well, so both of us might benefit from going together.