As an adult, what is the worst thing you said or did to one of your parents?

After my father died, I told my mother that if she couldn’t stop lying to me, talking trash about my family, and manipulating us, I would end our relationship.

She refused. I kept my word.

Not to that extent, being angry or disrespectful, but I have told my mother she was out of line with other people a few times.

I publicly berated my mother when she wanted to be a part of my life and support me at the hospital.

She was interrogating my doctors and they were answering her. I thought it a violation we still weren’t close and I was managing every onems perception of my illness.
Unfortunately they said i needed verfication that I was going home with someone else. And she volunteered. I apologized later but made my boundaries pretty clear.

My parents lived in Indonesia in the Seventies. I went a year without writing a letter to them.

No, I had an unhealthy but reasonable fear of my mother until the day she died. My dad is a whole other complicated issue. I’ve spent my adult life verbally protecting him as much as I can as he’s lives in a different part of the country.

I always felt I could never please my father. I finally told him that, when he was quite old. He didn’t understand how I could feel that way. I wish I’d had the nerve to tell him sooner. I feel like I should never have mentioned it.

I cut my mother out of my life. Many people are appalled by that, but I had excellent reasons.

When I was 16 I told my dad he was a hypocrite and not in a fit of temper. I meant it and he knew he deserved it. I know that hurt him and I loved him dearly but his actions in relation to that situation were hypocritical and I was terribly disappointed in him. I learned a lot about him that day. For one, I learned he was human. It just took me a while to process the situation and realise that was the behaviour he displayed that day. He acted like a human between a rock and a hard place and the decision he made was the best for him.