It must be that I feel safer, why I try to hide as much as I do… I don’t know myself well enough, though, to know if it’s that I feel safer that people don’t know, or if it’s the act of hiding, that makes me feel safer. I generally do trust people. At least I think I do. I believe they mean well, and when we’re the same room I even believe it’s okay that we are. It’s when I walk away, or when there’s a lull, or when there’s a change in direction or subject, that I become painfully aware of everything I’ve exposed. That I smiled too much, laughed too loud, admitted to liking too many things. They must have seen it.Or if not them, someone else who was watching. It! It! I don’t know what it is. Just that it’s what I’m scared of, and what I need to conceal.
I share here, and I don’t feel unsafe. I just feel that, in writing, someone can skim, can skip. I don’t have to waste their time, jam my words into their ears. Eyes have lids.
My words can richocet and go into cyber-oblivion. I tell myself, this is why it’s okay. I tell myself, it’s not because I want anyone to hear.
I’m practiced at keeping myself concealed. I have difficulty speaking beyond a low monotone, and when I hear myself I sound so strange, so I don’t like to speak. Lights are so bright, and people’s faces so loud, so I don’t like to look. I’m not allowed to speak up or look up anyway, so this is all fine. I’m not allowed to share. So I don’t. It’s more than habit. I have rules. These are some of my rules.
I crumple when I make mistakes, because even though that’s what they are I don’t know how to believe it’s all they are. I feel my mistakes are the reality of my incompetence oozing, oxidizing, bright and apparent. That the more I do, the more time I take—it’s that old child’s game of Don’t Wake Daddy! and the longer I press the button on the alarm, the more like I’ll get caught. By who? By what? I don’t know. It. It’s just it.
I’m scared of how much I care. Of that pain I feel, actually feel, it hurts, when I tear myself away from someone or something. Of how much worse it would have been had I stayed longer, divulged more. Of how much worse it would have been if I hadn’t been the one to pull, if it had just ripped. Everything feels like hangnails, precarious and snagging and painful, and it’s just a matter of time before all I have are bloody cuticles. Is that a weird thing to feel? I don’t know. I just need to keep my fingers painted, and pull when I have to. Everything, then, will be fine. And I feel somehow strong…. which must mean I feel safe. This must be safe. I must feel safe.