Has somebody said something to you, that changed your life entirely?
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December 9th, 2012
I had a difficult family life, for various reasons, and not only did I want to leave school as fast as possible, but I suspect my parents would have liked that to save them anymore bother with me.
So with that in mind, two years before graduation, and of school leaving age. I had decided that indeed I was leaving school.
I was a cheeky and obnoxious pupil and had lot’s to say, was always in detention and generally baulked at authority.
One day one of the most feared teachers Mr Whatsit, shouted from a class room window above me. I was startled and he beckoned me to come upstairs. I was in ‘shit” again for something.
“I don’t care” I said, I am leaving at the end of the year. He was giving me strife and stopped abruptly. For about two hours he told me, how intelligent I was, how I was worth more than (this?) and how important it was for me to stay on.
That day changed something inside of me. If Mr NastyWhatsit could see so much in me. Why couldn’t I? I did stay and passed with university entrance. Not bad for a girl who only started school at 12. That person changed my life. Who has changed yours?
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I had an incident here on fluther. It was right after California voted on prop 8. I confessed that I had voted for it. I had listened to a video by Rick Warren and he said that churches would be forced to hire gay teachers in their preschools. I had not heard ANY no on prop 8 ads and although I was apprehensive, I voted for it.
After I confessed on fluther I got chewed a new one by @tinyfairy. Her response was not only angry, but under the surface I could see a vulnerability and a pain that broke my heart. In the true sense of the word, it caused me to “repent.” Her response, along with a few other things that happened, created an entire turn around in my attitude towards Gay rights. I even changed to an open and affirming Church. My heart aches when I think about how my vote and my ignorance hurt people, but that one little rant of @tinyfairy’s on fluther turned me into a civil rights advocate.
“Would you really have less control if you didn’t worry?” my therapist asked. At first I struggled for words. Of course I’d have less control! When I worry, I am getting prepared for the bad things that may happen. I am coming up with game plans. I am steeling myself. I don’t want to get blindsided.
But, no…I realized that was all BS. Worry doesn’t fix anything.
And now I do a whole lot less of that.
This may not be fair, but it seems to me that just about everybody says things to me that change my life entirely. But one thing was when my upstairs neighbor invited me to a party at their place. It lead to me finding a dance workshop that has changed my life in myriad ways. It has changed my understanding of bodies and movement and philosophy and the meaning of life, and perhaps most importantly, it introduced me to my wife.
A shrink told me “You’re not that important.” They were the most liberating words I had ever heard and I am grateful to this day, almost 30 years later, that he told me that.
Yes, ME.
I am the only one that can change my life entirely. I am glad I listen to ME.
On a similar point, I was lucky enough to have parents that nurtured and instilled some valuable traits. Thus I have not had to feel like I had to “change my life entirely”.
@Mariah I think you have just said something that has changed my life entirely. Thank you.
@Shippy Wow, :D! I guess we both have my therapist to thank for a lot, huh?
It seems like I am only back on mobile. So spelling errors and all!
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