NSFW? Is it all in the kiss?

A kiss can indeed tell you a lot about whether the person is for you and I have had both good and bad. I admit that I always had trouble when I was younger where some of my friends would want to kiss as many girls as they could in one night as if it was some kind of macho thing so thankfully I have never been like that. (I’m talking about spending hours in an attempt to get as close to 20 or more than 20)

I think there is a lot of feeling in a kiss as there can be a tenderness where it can be quite loving or there is a hardness where you may as well have kissed a fresh salmon. I know that I personally have kissed someone where they had more suction than a vacuum cleaner and I was close to having to hold onto any object I could find to act as an anchor. On the other hand I have also had the opposite side, but the kiss was the hottest thing about her as the rest was as cold as a naked polar bear in a biting Arctic wind.

A kiss is important, but it is not all. Smell is very important too. Fit. Lots of things add up to the bottom line.

Gotta know how to use them hands.

The kiss is very important. I can’t make love to someone unless I enjoy kissing them. See, I could fool around with or fuck someone I don’t enjoy kissing, but I am not going to feel very intimate with them unless we can kiss.

And, as I learned this summer, it’s not cheating if you don’t kiss!~

According to Cher it is, but that would be like snogging a fucking mannequin!

To me, a kiss is very intimate, with the exception of a quick buss on the cheek. If I didn’t enjoy just spending time kissing a man, I doubt it would ever go any farther than that.

Just can’t imagine spending a lot of time with someone who doesn’t kiss well. And the kisses must be tender and sweet, not involving someone trying to perform a tonsilectomy on me with their tongue. Yick!

@laurenkem: Awesome! I have never heard anyone use the word “buss” in real life. I had to look that word up when I encountered it somewhere in Leaves of Grass.

A good kisser can still be a shitty person so, no, I don’t think it’s “all in the kiss”. I wouldn’t want to have sex with a bad kisser or marry one, but enjoying a kiss doesn’t mean that person is “good for me” and I’m not sure it has a whole lot to do with smell.

I think that the physical aspects of a relationship matter more to some people than to others. For those for whom physical matters more, I mean a lot of things: kiss, touch, and sex come immediately to mind.

So I guess it isn’t all in the kiss, although if the kiss is good, it is likely the other physical aspects of the relationship will be good.

This all presumes that the things leading to the first kiss are positive. That you don’t kiss before you know a lot about the person and have a strong sense that they fit with you. That is not to say that a lot of time has passed, but that you have taken the time to get to know each other before kissing. It’s not just a drunken kiss at a party.

If you don’t really know the person, then the information you can get from a kiss is a lot less.

Mhm, I am totally going to marry a guy that can kiss well, I don’t care if he has been a bank robber, rapist nor if he is now broke and robbing innocent old ladies. Maybe too he stinks from lack of washing, has a fish skeleton in his hat, and a pack of dogs as his best mates. I am still going to marry him if he can kiss gimme a break

They must kiss well, though I can help in the area. Obviously the rest must be there.

Kissing is important. But it’s the whole package that matters.

eh I don’t know. My boyfriend was a horrible kisser at first. Now he’s fantastic :) Kissing is just something that takes practice and if the other person isn’t as experienced in that area as you are, you can always teach them. Good thing he always smelled good lol

@cutiepi92 Good for you that you gave him a chance!

Here are some ingredients for a ‘bad kiss’:
– If you clack your teeth into mine repeatedly
– If you immediately try to cram your tongue all the way down my throat to the point of gagging
– If I can visibly see a cold sore on your mouth
– If you have facial hair that smells like a dead rodent, facial hair that feels greasy, or facial hair that has visible chunks of food/debris nestled in there without your knowledge… or even worse with your knowledge and you’re cool with it.

@mailmodel I’d like to add:

-Overly wet lips
-Too much tongue
-Bad breath
-Opening the mouth too wide
-Boring technique

I think the kiss is many things to many people. I have met some people who would be OK with their mate sleeping with other people so long as they did not kiss them, because they felt the kiss was more intimate than the boinking. On the other hand, there were many who did not sweat a kiss as much as they would if their mate boinked another person. There was no kiss that screamed ”she is the one” to me.