I need some tips on how to become a battle axe?

Vent in private before things build up to nuclear bomb dimensions.

Chop some wood, vac your house, mow the lawn, bench press your car several times,

During calm times, learn some workable techniques on confrontation. Blowing your stack was not successful so you need to find other ways to cope.

Are there any groups or therapists who can help you with what is so common that it has its own name? “Anger management.”

Does your work and/or personal life require you to be around people all the time? Having once shared your issues (which still flare up from time to time), what I try to do when I’m feeling “on edge” is stay away from people as much as possible. I know that’s not always feasible and it’s certainly not a cure to the problem, but it works for me.

The best axes are made of tempered steel. This is steel where carbon has been worked into it by hand, and the metal is folded over and over and over. The blades shimmer with fascinating patterns at the end.

A battle axe is a funny weapon, to me. I kind of prefer the human battle axe. But she is usually found in schools or leading accounting departments or something like that. She is big, buxom, and brooks no nonsense.

Does she know her boundaries? I’m not sure. Not sure at all. What she does is she puts up a very intimidating front and no one gets close at all. Is that what you want?

You know, Shippy, you are who you are. If you have anger issues, you have them and can work on them. People you care about should know that and love and accept you as you are.

Frankly, I think explosive personalities are much more interesting people to be around than milk-toasts. It adds an element of danger and keeps you on your toes.

I just exploded a little bit last weekend about something I felt strongly about and my guy friend just shut up immediately, so I think I scared him, but rather than talk about it, I just let it go. I am what I am, like it or leave it. :)

There is currently no way for you to become a battle axe. You are composed mostly of water and carbon based compounds, so while that would maybe suffice to turn 30 percent of you into a wooden handle, to make the metal axe head, your carbon, hydrogen, oxygen and other atoms would have to be transmutated into metal atoms, which basically means your body would have to undergo a huge series of tightly controlled nuclear fusions to create the metal, and then they would have to be rearranged into the shape and compounds that make up an axe.
In short, to become a battle axe, you would need a Star Trek-esque transporter/replicator, which at the moment, does not exist.

Just follow my example, I will show you how it is done!!! (And if you would like some other excellent fluther role models, PM me and I will tell you which ones to watch :-))

A little self-analysis might help. What kinds of situations do you find yourself not establishing good boundaries? Friends? Family? Neighbors? Co-workers?

What kinds of requests do you find it difficult to say no to? Examples help.

You don’t need to be a battle axe to keep good boundaries. You just need to learn to say no at the right time. To do that, you need to think through some of your bottom lines first, so you know, in advance, how far you are willing to let someone go. Then you know when the time is coming to say no.

@rooeytoo I will, but before I do. I want ones with style, grace and a swift kicking action?Not a bull in a china shop. I can do that one on my own loll.

@Shippy – The ones I had in mind don’t fit that description, nor do I. I am more of the bull in a china shop type, hehehe. Guess you are going to have to wing it!

Wish me luck!