Slutty means guys like it. Not slutty means girls like it.
The reality is that the girls will be gossiping at the Prom, so you better go with a non-slutty dress. You wouldn’t want to have the other girls see you pleasing the guys. Girls are very catty, to judge by this conversation here. Saying the dress looks slutty is about as catty a remark as you can make, I think.
In my opinion, it’s ok to look sexy. You can look sexy and that doesn’t mean you will go home with any guy. But I think there is a lot of pressure from girls not to stand out in that way, if you want to be known as a “classy” girl. I think this is a form of sexism. I think it is the world again saying it’s ok for guys to be into sex, but not ok for girls.
I was talking to a researcher about this this afternoon. She is studying what young teens at summer camp learn from counselors about sex. Apparently, they talk to boys about it and give them advice about it, but they shy away from talking to girls about it.
The message to girls is about shame. Shame on you if you look slutty. Shame on you if you think about sex or being attractive or relationships or anything like that. Just say no. Even in liberal circles, we see this message. Hell. Even on fluther.
It’s interesting. I suspect this is built into us. Girls will never be treated equally about sex. Sex is always something girls will be encouraged to keep sacred, as if it is something that can be taken from them.
So a dress like the first one, which might excite men, will make a woman think you’re a slut. If that’s the case, then there’s no way you should wear it. Women’s opinions are much more important to you than men’s. That is probably as it should be.
But you know what to do if you want the boys to approve of you. Still, it will scare away a lot of boys, too. It would scare away me. I’d think you were too hot to talk to. So interesting stuff, eh?