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I’ve been a lacto-ovo vegetarian for 23 years. I am not a vegan, so I also include dairy and eggs in my diet. That seems to be the most common type of vegetarianism and is much easier to carry out than being a vegan. So first of all you (or whomever this question is referring to, maybe a friend?) has to make a decision about whether to be a regular vegetarian, a vegan, or maybe just cut down on meat and fish consumption without actually committing to be a full blown vegetarian.
Your ideas about why you want to be a vegetarian should make that decision fairly easy. But actually becoming a vegetarian can be somewhat of a challenge, especially depending upon where you live (availability of vegetarian items) and the friends and family that you have (supportive versus not-supportive) and your own willpower to resist temptation (for me this was not hard at all, because I love food and I love to cook so it’s easy for me to find alternatives that sustain my need for yumminess).
Another challenge to becoming a vegetarian would depend on whether you have any conditions that make eating certain staple vegetarian items difficult or impossible. For example if you have celiac disease, you will not be able to eat any grain products that contain gluten. If you have nut allergies, that will pose a different problem. Those are the 2 biggies that get in the way of an easy vegetarian experience. If you don’t have either of those problems then it is pretty easy to go veg.
The biggest difficulty to becoming (or continuing to be) a vegetarian is dining out, especially with other people. Unless you eat at restaurants that are specifically described as being vegetarian, you often have to ask tons of questions about every single thing you might want to eat, to find out if you are getting “hidden animal products.” This wouldn’t be that big of a deal if the majority of restaurant workers actually knew the answer to your questions, often they do not.
There is often chicken broth, gelatin, or animal based “natural flavors” in a lot of dishes that you might think are vegetarian. Soups are notorious for containing either chicken, beef or fish broth. Many pasta dishes have meat sauce. Burritos are often made with lard, both in the beans and the tortillas. Even the typical “green salad” often comes with bacon bits, or a dressing (especially Caesar dressing) that contains anchovies. Desserts, especially puddings and mousse, often contain gelatin.
Most regular restaurants (that are not described as vegetarian) have limited, and sometimes no, vegetarian offerings. If you are lucky, you will get the proverbial Buddha’s Delight, which is a nasty dish of corn starch thickened sauce, canned squishy baby corn and limp floating pieces of bok choy (shuddering at the thought of this). The other option is usually a plate of steamed vegetables with no sauce. Yum! Or an iceberg lettuce salad with mealy pink tomatoes and stale bread croutons. If you want to be a good guest, if you are eating with other people and you don’t want to cause a commotion, you will learn to enjoy these 3 items and not complain about it. I am of the opinion that if there is one item on a menu that I can eat, I will eat that and not make a stink. It’s not worth it. If people ask you where you want to eat, you can throw out a bunch of ideas that have lots of things that you can eat, but try not to choose places that will scare people that can’t imagine living a day without eating meat. Those kinds of conversations don’t usually go well, and people will often demand that you explain WHY you are a vegetarian and all sorts of other embarrassing questions that are none of their business.
People will often feel sorry for you. The more sensitive types will feel so sorry for you when you go out to eat with them that they will constantly apologize to you (another way that you will be made to stand out in public).
In the meantime, you can try to kindly ask the waiter or chef to assemble something for you, which thankfully, they are ususually happy to do. But know that this is going to draw attention to you (something that I do not like to do). Your restaurant mates, depending upon who they are, might get irritated by your constant questions, and they might challenge you as to WHY you are a vegetarian. One of my favorite (not) questions from a former co-worker was, “If you like the taste of meat, why would you eat fake meat and not just eat real meat?” Really??? My ususual reply to that would be, “It’s not that I don’t like the taste of meat, and these fake meat products are actually pretty good, it’s just that I don’t think it’s necessary for humans, in this day and age, to kill animals to have a tasty treat.”
The other difficulty in becoming, or continuing to be a vegetarian is the fact that you will have to get in the habit (annoying to some people) of reading every single label on every single food product that you pick up, to make sure there are no animal products in there. Often there is chicken broth lurking in the vegetable soup, there is often gelatin residing in the yogurt, there is sometimes chochineal (ground up red beetles) floating around in your pink grapefruit juice. You have to know some of the terms for animal products that are not always as simple as chicken or beef, to find them hiding in your favorite products.
Here is a list by Peta of Animal Products and Alternatives
Another sometimes unpleasant thing about being a vegetarian is going to a party, such as a wedding, or to a gathering at someone else’s home, whether it’s to a family Christmas party, or to a Superbowl party with people you may or may not know. You have to learn to be a polite sleuth, to find out what is going to be served. If you find out ahead of time that there will be nothing that you can eat, it’s best to have a private conversation with the host and ask them if you can bring a vegetarian item to share. Some hosts will be accomodating to the point that they will make something specifically for you, some hosts will gladly let you bring something, and other hosts will be super uncomfortable and not know what to do.
You will have to be concerned that what one host thinks is vegetarian, is actually not. Your best bet is to eat a little something before any party that you go to, so you won’t starve to death if the worst case scenario happens. Poor Aunt Mary may not realize that the marshmallows in her ambrosia and sweet potato casserole are not suitable for vegetarians. When you point that out to her, she might be embarrassed or saddened. So be prepared for uncomfortable situations and conversations with folks who just don’t know what vegetarian means, but never allow yourself to be bullied or humiliated into a debate with anyone. It’s not worth it. Just smile and say, “No problem, I ate a little something before I came over and I’m good.” And always, always, always carry snacks like nuts or dried fruit in your bag or your car, in case you need them.
Another difficullty for people considering the idea of going veg, is when they are picky eaters. It’s hard enough for picky eaters to exist in the regular world, but when their diets are drastically limited, that can throw a whole other monkey wrench into the machine. Resist the urge to become a “Cheetos Vegetarian.” What I mean by this is, do not limit your diet to just a few yummy, but nutrion-less items such as processed snack foods. You will become sick and lethargic and likely to develop certain diseases linked to malnutrition (including obesity).
Make it your aim to eat mostly whole foods and nutrient dense foods, and a great big variety of foods. And if you don’t know how to cook, make that your number one priority for this big adventure. It will save you a lot of grief. Do not depend upon restaurants and processed food. If you’re a picky eater, get over it. How do you get over that? You consciously choose to eat new things and eat them multiple times. It sometimes takes 10 tries at eating a new food before you acquire a taste for it. And learn new techniques for cooking foods such as roasting, pureeing, grilling, frying, steaming, poaching, sauteeing, made into a soup, added to pasta, added to chili, thrown onto a pizza, put into a burrito, added into a lasagna or enchiladas or quiche or omelets, put raw onto a salad, etc.
Getting proteins in a vegetarian diet is really easy: nuts; beans and legumes; tofu and seitan and tempeh; eggs, cheese and other dairy products; whole grains; and vegetable oils like olive oil and canola oil, nut and seed oils such as walnut and flax oil, and certain fruits like avocados. Some incomplete proteins need to be consumed with others in the same day (but not necessarily at the same meal if you don’t want) to create a complete proteins, beans and rice for instance. Quinoa, which is technically a seed and not exactly a grain, although you use it just like other grains like wheat, barley, bulgur etc. is actually a complete protein. Yay for quinoa! Here’s some information from the Vegetarian Resource Group about How to Get Protein in a Vegetarian Diet, and How much you Need
You also need to make sure that you get Vitamin B-12. If you eat eggs and dairy this will be no problem, because B-12 is in these animal products. You can read all about B-12 and why you need it and where to find it (even if you are a vegan) on this site from the Vegetarian Resource Group
Now, if I haven’t scared you off (and I certainly hope I haven’t) here are some resources that might be useful to you and other people to whom you are trying to explain all of this.
Here is a list of some of the Vegetarian Super Foods These are foods that are nutrient dense and/or foods that fight inflamation and possibly help to prevent diseases such as cancer and heart disease and diabetes.
Why Vegetarians and Vegans Need Omega 3 Fatty Acids and Where to Find Them
Here’s some seemingly Vegan and Vegetarian Products that are Not
Finding Vegetarian Options at Traditional Chain Restaurants
Plan Ahead to get Vegetarian Meals on Airplanes
A book you might consider buying Living Among Meat Eaters The Vegetarian’s Survival Handbook
Let me know if you need or want any recipes : )