Are you more forgiving the second time around?

I’d like to think one learns from ones mistakes. Possibly one of the biggest mistakes is lack of communication. So if I were to marry again, I’d certainly not make that mistake again.

Yes – it I were to marry again, it would have to be someone with whom I could talk about issues. I think I would be more assessing going into the relationship than I was the first time.

Having a first bad marriage, I learned a lot about communication that helped in my second marriage.

My “yes” was actually an agreement with @Shippy‘s statement rather than the one in the OP.

I am less forgiving this time around and less willing to settle. I sublimated a lot in my first marriage and put up with a passionless, loveless experience for entirely too long. My standards are much higher this time. Both of us have had to bring our A games because neither of us is willing to settle for a low quality relationship. It isn’t worth it.

The data show that regardless of any individual’s experience here, on average, second marriages fail more often than first ones. Thirds have a higher failure rate. It’s as if once you realize you can live without marriage, it’s easier and easier to give up on it.

I don’t think it would be forgiveness so much as compromise that one either learns or does not learn. But even more important than any of that is communication skills.

Haven’t been “forgiving” enough to get married the first time around. Makes it difficult to get married again. And I do think forgiving is the operative word.