I was gonna meet Zensky maybe, but he’s not coming, after all.
I met someone who was on here for maybe two weeks at my invitation. I knew her from Askville. We’re still friends and talk regularly, although she is not maintaining any kind of online presence any more.
I also had another friend from Askville who also came over here for a while. We had a phone relationship for a month or so, but that relationship flamed out pretty dramatically. That was during the time I was really sick. Later on, we became buds again, which was kind of interesting. I like when things normalize after having been out of control.
My relationships always start out of control. When I like someone, I can’t hold back. It usually does not work out well, but that’s the way I am and my emotions usually burn so hot there isn’t a thing I can do about it. I don’t even try to control it. It’s useless. Most people think I’m nuts and after a couple of weeks of intensely getting to know me, they want nothing more to do with me. From the feedback I get, I’m pretty sure most people here can understand that.
Only a very few of my online relationships move on to something more even-keeled. I suspect that the reason so few end up in a normal friendship has partly to do with being online and the abnormality of meeting people online, and the rest has to do with my personality.
Since my personality tends to drive people away fairly quickly, I don’t get into any serious trouble. The odd thing is that I actually don’t really like spending time with most people. It is really wearing. I guess I have bad filters. I can’t keep things at a normal level. Either I’m totally on, or totally off. Not much in between except when I ride herd on myself as hard as I can. As you might imagine, that’s pretty draining.
It’s hard to find people I can cut loose with. I meet people online and glom onto them enthusiastically, but then it quickly becomes clear we aren’t who we thought each other was, and it’s over. Kind of too bad. They are all really nice people. But I don’t think the internet can sustain the intensity necessary to form a lasting relationship. I dunno. Interesting question.