Do you think it's a good idea to talk about serrious topics right before going to bed?

I think you’ll have a harder time shutting down for the day if you hold serious topics in.

[edit]: Personally, I’d sooner have fewer hours of restful sleep, knowing there’s nothing eating at me than to get a full night of restless sleep – maybe that’s just me.

i refuse to have arguments or highly heated emotional conversations in the night. its not smart. people don’t think as much and often regret the things they say/do later. but serious conversations are okay (as long as its not an argument as stated above)

I do it every day. I take sex very serious.

I take it any way I can.
I’m not as picky.

And I think I need help. No matter how much I talk about it I find myself “pounding” the same subject the next day.

I think it’s important to consider important subjects before bed because your mind processes your thoughts during sleep so you are more capable of making good decisions about the subjects the next day. Fact.

You should never be afraid of a good question.

I made that mistake tonight – hence my midnight Fluthering. I had a shitty day – after a week of decline & struggle, my Power Mac G5 died today. My sole source of income.

I pulled out the hard drive with all my jobs on it and put it in an external enclosure, so I can keep working on my MacBook at least. :(

@ pupntaco – sorry you had a bad day, hope it gets better.

I think having serious conversations before going to bed isn’t actually a bad thing to me because I’m not as tight-lipped as I am during the day. i.e. I have less trouble expressing myself. Then I can say the things I usually plan to say but don’t when the time is there…

I’m not sure what my answer would have been yesterday morning, but after a serious conversation last night that kept me awake for a bit and then haunted my dreams, today I’d have to say it’s not a good idea!

my boyfriend’s grandfather is dying (he has about 12 months left to live). My bf found out right before bed last night, which made us both really sad. I then had a dream that I was grown up and my mom was dying. :-( No sad conversations before bed!

@ PnL from PnT: thanks :)

I think that is a great policy. If only I could work that into my life,....We always talk about serious / intense matters before bed (instigated by moi) and I have bad dreams, can’t sleep, etc.

My own experience is no serious conversations before bed. I can’t shut down after that.

Serious conversations only if the issue can be resolved.
Otherwise over coffee with fresh minds.

conversations during a love making session is great.

Just before sleeping will get you restless if the conversation is heated.

Well you would most likely lose sleep because you would still be dwelling on the subject. So might not always be a good idea. That and it could trigger some of your dreams possibly.

i wouldn’t do it. i mean, honesty is good, but it’s all about timing. discussing sensitive issues before bed may lead to either of you sleeping on the couch. also, it’s good to go to bed with matters resolved. late-night is not the time. try sensitive talk at times a mate is most willing to let it bypass: usually a time when you’re enjoying something you usually dont do together. while canoeing, you say “you know i always hated when you do that.”

I made a rule with my SO that he can’t bring up certain topics in the last hour before bedtime. I don’t like to try and sleep when I am tense. I like to use that last hour to wind down and free my mind from the day.

NO. In my house that usually leads to either all night discussions, someone deciding they can’t sleep and need to work, or someone sleeping on the couch – all of which are bad outcomes for being rested and happy the next day.

Any and all serious subjects should be resolved before going to sleep. if not, the subject will be 10 times more serious the next morning. been there, done that.