Long Distance Relationship - How To?
For those in a LDR, how do you deal with the longing? I am in one, and it is challenging at times, because of the distance.
So, the question is: how do you approach wanting to be together all the time? One would have to eventually move – so, how do you bring that up? My SO is rooted, so I would be the one to make the move.
Or, do I just leave it alone, and let things happen when they happen? I do believe that we need to take initiative for things we want. Is this an exception?
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I’m assuming you mean a “Long-Distance Relationship?”
Yes – let me correct that!
Yay, I knew what it stood for…do I win a prize?
I would state your feelings about it and let them know! It could be a very hard talk but it might just be the key to helping you! If you don’t then they’ll see it as ok if they’re content so am I and nothing will get solved. You’ll be right where you are now! For who knows how long. So yea I’d mention it! Heck I did and I’ve just moved in with my fiancé who live 485 miles away from me
Thanks @snickerdoodle213. Congrats on the move! Gives me hope for sure. If I may ask, how long did you do the long distance thing?
A year and a half. He used to be a home mover so he traveled a lot so we didn’t get to talk everyday and in some cases for a week to two weeks depending on how busy he was
No, you are exactly right. For the relationship to have a real chance, you have to live in the same place. If you are the one who will move, you need to initiate discussions ASAP.
@TrueLuve I think you ask yourself if the 75% of them you get is better than 0%. It’s tough, but it can be done.
communicate, communicate, communicate
It’s wise to clarify who (if either) would eventually be relocating up front, and discussing that point regularly as the relationship matures.
As far as longing… ahem, let’s see stay busy, use the heck outta technology, watch movies over Netflix together over the phone, take a zillion pics, write a zillion emails, send romantic notes back and forth… the possibilities are endless!
Before definitively moving you should stay with him for a while, and see how you will feel, and what you will have to face. You’ll have to change your life to be with him. This is quite complicated.
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