Fluther virgin. I've been too frightened to ask my first question, how did you feel your first time?

Firstly, this is a question for Meta so I will move it there for you. If the question is about Fluthering, we post in that section.

To your question, I was nervous before posting my first question. I was so very pleasantly surprised by the helpful and informative responses I got it encouraged me to become part of the community.

I would be truly amazed if people were negative towards you. It does happen but it’s rare and when it has, it’s usually because the person seems to be trolling.

I was excited. I wanted a question that all the jellies would be intrested in. I don’t ask many questions I haven’t really had many questions, I have a lot of answers, and out here that is A OK too! So don’t fret, and ya, you just asked your first question! Good job, and welcome new jellie way to pop the cherry! ;)

I asked my first question a couple of days ago and so far, no-one’s slaughtered me. I was a little nervous about it as well… But everyone knows you’re new. They’ll be nice! I’m looking forward to your question now, so go ask it! :]

I moved here from another Q&A site so it wasn’t so bad but I asked the STUPIDEST question over there just to see how it worked. (The woodchuck question.)
Looking back I am surprised at how nice people were.
This is a great place and as long as you don’t use text speak and have reasonable writing skills you’ll fit in fine.
WELCOME!

I think you did clever, asking your first question with “asking first questions on Fluther” as a subject.
I foresee no problems for you on this site.
Welcome.

Congratz on your defloration!

I have been on the Internet for many years and never considered a Q and A. So it’s a totally new concept for me and I am enjoying the experience.

There are some impressive brains out there and I was concerned my stuff wouldn’t stack up. Smile, I’ve done it now so no looking back.

I just got and asked the question – but I’m used to that whole question and answer thing from my previous exploits on Yahoo Answers where a lot more trolls are known to roam.

Ah so it’s the trolls one should be wary of, once again I’m a bit naive about this, I’m assuming trolls are people who enjoy messing with you online and take delight in causing pain.

@Arewethereyet Relax, 90 percent of the people on here are amazing.You need a bit of a thick skin for the others. My first question was a long time coming. I didn’t worry about it at all.

Yes I’m starting to get a feel for the type of people inhabiting this space. I guess it depends if you want to wade into the controversial areas, and we all know what they are I think, where one is more likely to get their butt kicked.

@Arewethereyet If you want to stir up a mess, bring up religion, politics, or the budget and spending cuts. Most other stuff stays calm.

Bingo! But I live in Australia so some of the discussion re: US domestic policy is not on my radar. Another controversial area…it’s got to be War… Troops etc

@Adirondackwannabe is correct lol, I stir up the pot usually on religion. This site is great. The mods are great. You should not really run into to much of a problem and if there is a problem it can be worked out by talking about it in PM’s the questions are so you can get to know your fellow jelly community and have opinions that otherwise you may not get :))

@Arewethereyet Welcome to fluther. We need more Aussies. I want to go there. It’s on my bucket list. I’m in Upstate New York.

@Adirondackwannabe thanks for the welcome, call me old fashioned, but I still get such a buzz re this technology, being able to visit and talk with people all over the world.
Glad Australia is on your bucket list it’s a pretty cool place. I think it’s true what they say about us Aussies, we are super friendly.
I’ve been to the States just to see family in California, made it to vegas and grand canyon but that’s it. It’s on my bucket list to get back there.

I love the fact that I can talk to someone in your country, discuss the weather, then go to someone in Europe, and the bounce around to someone in South America. And yes, you Aussies are super friendly. Did you get hit with the flooding?

No I’m down south near Melbourne also I live perched up above the bay here so I’m fortunate. Our main concerns are bushfires

@Arewethereyet lives in a beautiful part of Australia.

For some people the first question can be kind of intimadating, especially if you’re wondering how others will perceive you. But now that you’ve got your first question out of the way, I hope you feel more comfortable to ask away. My first question was frivolous, but I was welcomed to Fluther in spite of it.

Don’t worry, I think you’ll do well. Welcome to Fluther @Arewethereyet!

@Bellatrix Thanks for that.
@Earthgirl. Hi

I just plunged right in and asked my first question but it was a really stupid one. It was about Taylor Swift and why does everyone think she’s so great. But you know what? Since then I’ve decided she has some talent. I liked her playing banjo at the Grammies. Just play me some banjo and you’ve won me over, lol. I’m sure everyone thought my first question was stupid but they were nice enough to answer it.

Hey AW! How’d you do that, lol. I never got a message while I was “crafting” an answer, lol.

Welcome to fluther! I don’t even remember my first question. What I do remember, and still get the same feeling often, is how wonderful it is to get great advice, information, and ideas from the collective. It’s exciting to see all the answers rolling in. How’s it going with this Q? I think this probably counts as your first question.

I feel sad that you would be afraid of being slaughtered. Most jellies are very welcoming to new people and helpful too. We love questions, so please post lots. I look forward to answering some soon.

@Earthgirl I don’t know. That doesn’t show up as being your site.

Thanks Guys, this does qualify as my first and I’ve had such a lovely lot of feedback. I’m feeling all warm and fuzzy. I feel like Ive just walked into a party where I don’t know anyone and been welcomed with open arms.
And @Shippy No i didn’t think i would be really slaughtered as such jut a bit of performance anxiety and that my contribution would be seen as too banal.
Now that I’ve jumped in I think I’ll be sending out a few more Qs.

@Arewethereyet Please do! We need all kinds of curiosity to liven things up! It’s always good to have a new voice and a new point of view. Welcome!

I was nervous.

The thing I found most peculiar, early on, is that a couple of jellies started talking about my mental health because of something I said in a question. I don’t remember exactly, but one said (of me) “Do you think she’s . . . .?” The other replied, “Well, maybe she . . ..” I felt like saying, “Hey, guys, I’m right here next to you. Don’t you realize I can hear everything you say?” It never happened again, but I found it disconcerting.
Welcome to Fluther and just speak your mind!

I wasn’t nervous, but it may have been because it was a pretty tame Q – probably something about computers or tattoos.

Also I wasn’t a lurker, I jumped in with both feet the same day I found the site. Had I lurked, it may have been a different story.

HAHA I love that – a lurker, i feel a bit like a lurker but now I’m a bonafide jelly asker. Thanks for all your feedback. I think going with the safe question a good place to start. And @Sunny2 I feel for you I think if i’d got those comments I would run screaming never to be seen again.

I think I lurked for about a week before I asked my first question. I can’t even remember what the first one was, but the second one was a doozy! I’ve been hooked ever since. Welcome to Fluther, @Arewethereyet!

I asked my first question here a few years ago. I stumbled on Fluther one night while I was in need of gaining some insight. As a single Dad, I don’t have a simple safe place to bounce questions. After reading a few Q&A’s, I felt Fluther was a place I could ask a question, get honest feedback, and not get slaughtered.
The rest is history. I have been here almost everyday since.
Go for it!

It didn’t bother me in the slightest, they’re only questions after all, if someone does give you grief just point & laugh…it’s more than they deserve, but it feels right.
Welcome aboard by the way, you should fit in just fine :-)

Ask a lot of questions about food and cooking and you’ll never get slaughtered. We love food and cooking around here. Welcome aboard : )

Also, I’ve found that if a discussion becomes super tense and heated, throwing out a good recipe usually calms everyone down

Now enjoy this Lamington Cake Recipe

With regard to your topic tags, I felt a lot more than ‘anxiety’ the first time I failed to achieve my ‘performance expectations’. Fortunately, she didn’t seem to mind!

My perception is that the old-timers beat up on each other, and are generally gracious to newcomers. In the beginning, I felt more comfortable (safer) posting in the General section where everyone tries to stay on topic, and is on their best behavior. Social is more of a free-for-all, and can be both fun and intimidating because you never know where the smart-asses around here are going to take your question! Don’t take it personally, and do enjoy the discourse, wherever it may go.

The first time I got up the nerve to ask a question I was afraid it would be considered silly and ignored. It wasn’t. I got a lot of great comments for it, as I have for most questions I’ve asked since. But I still feel a little like I did the first time everytime I ask a question.

@Arewethereyet: Welcome to Fluther.
The first time I asked a question here, I hadn’t been lurking. I just jumped right in. It was a pretty intimate question that opened me up to potential abuse and derision, but I was very pleasantly surprised that the great majority of Jellies took my question seriously and tried to help me.
I understand that it caused much grumbling when it was first instituted, but I am very glad for the General/Social divide. If you have a serious question to pose and don’t want it to be derailed, put it in General. If you’re more interested to find out what people think about a particular subject, throw it into Social and see what happens.
Hope you enjoy it here.

@Bossob and @bookish
I’ll keep that in mind. I posted in social because I thought ‘broad is good’ and I know I’m going to get in trouble because I always go off topic ha

I knocked up Fluther my first time.

Well…
There are a very limited number of questions in the world and most have been asked and answered already by much greater minds than mine or yours.

Just kidding. Jump in, the water is temperate for all jellyfish! Just thank or ignore the grouchy-fish and find your place. I’m sure you’ll be just fine.

@Blueroses I’m picturing a grouchy-fish, them’s one you don’t want to mess with or try to make sushi out of. He looks like This

@Kardamom those eyes are kinda cute. That’s more of a grumpy-fish.