Are you a giver or a taker?

I’m a trader. I rarely do anything for free, but if you do something for me then I will reciprocate; I don’t like feeling indebted.

I like to think I’m a giver, but on occasion I f***up and become a taker. I hate myself then.

Definitely a giver.

I’m definitely a giver. It’s my passion.

I am a giver, with prudence.
I love to be giving and generous, but if I feel you are taking advantage of me I will chop down your beanstalk without a backwards glance. lol

@Coloma LMAO Please don’t hurt my beanstalk. :)

By the way politicians from the right here in the USA define giver and taker, I am both. I worked all my life paying into the system, but somehow, now that I am drawing Social Security and Medicare coverage, I’m referred to as if I am some lowlife sponging off the makers. Here they talk about makers and takers.

But I also continue to work. I build eCommerce websites and my work has helped a couple of entrepreneurs make it to the big time as makers (or givers).

@Adirondackwannabe Haha…unsavory Jacks get the axe to their beanstalks.lol

@Coloma Ouch.

^^^ :-D

Thanks lady. Good luck with your move.

Sometimes one; sometimes the other with the general tendency to be a giver. I’ve had to learn to take, as well.

Probably a bit more of a giver, but I’m kind of selfish about it. I will always give aid and comfort, but not always time and energy (if I don’t feel I can spare it.) On the other side, it’s not so much that I’m a taker, but that I’m a loner. For most of my life, I generally relied only on myself (emotionally). I relied on my ex-husband financially, but even that was kind of a hard thing to feel okay about when I first became a stay-at-home mom. I’m learning to take comfort from others now, and it’s a good thing.

What exactly are we talking about here? I thought it was one thing… then there were other things… now I’m confused :P.

I don’t always equate being a taker as a bad thing. The two live in symbiosis. But either in great amounts is unhealthy. I just wish I could be a taker at times :)

Giver, but people take advantage of that.

More of a giver than taker.

Depends on the size of your

I used to be a martyr, which I ultimately recognized as having selfish roots – on the surface you give and give, but the payoff is that you get to feel self-righteous, but also self-pity when under-appreciated. It also allowed me to deflect attention off of me and onto the needs and faults of others, and to perpetuate my poor self image by saying that the other person didn’t love or want me for who I was, but only because of what I did for them. It was a very twisted co-dependent cycle.

Now I try to balance: I aim to give with zero expectations, and try to receive without any sense of obligation. Receiving love, attention, gratitude, compliments and kindness was the most difficult. Accepting that others are sincere and see something good in me that is deserving of their time and acknowledgment still feels awkward, but through it I am learning to see myself through their eyes and growing stronger in my sense of self-worth.

@hearkat. Fantastic answer thank you.