Guys: Do you get comfy (see more details)

I never stop expressing my feelings. Why would I want to?

That is fantastic! I don’t either.

I grew up in a family that didn’t express these emotions on a regular basis. As a result, I don’t naturally express them – to do so is something I have learned from others, to keep up with their expectations. When I’m with someone who doesn’t expect them, then I don’t force it. I don’t think it’s a product of gender.

I don’t think this is a gender difference. I find expression varying amongst both men and women. Some people are just more expressive, some don’t like to initiate it. I don’t think it is a topic that lends it self to generalities.

@zenvelo That actually makes sense.
@glacial I have known people that grew up the same way.

I was curious about this, because i recently spoke with a coworker that seemed bugged that her SO stopped sending random love notes. I did not know how to advise on that topic. It just made me think that maybe he became comfy enough to stop. From what I can see, they are happily in love. no doubt.

@TrueLuve You may be completely right, that he is “comfy” enough to stop. But your question is asking whether his comfiness is due to his gender – and I think that’s where we begin to disagree.

@glacial Ah true – I did phrase it that way. More on that couple: she never stopped sending the love notes, etc. I guess that is why I questioned gender. But, I can see it being both.

My husband is the silent type about feelings, and always acts surprised when I ask him to verbalize his feelings about something. He loves me and I know it, but he doesn’t feel like he needs to express it all the time. If he’s not working he’ll do the dishes or dust and vacuum, or something, to show me he cares and he’s trying. It works.

If I feel it and it’s returned I’ll say it all the time. Hey if I love her she should get to hear it.

I also have a hard time expressing myself. Not so much with a partner. Unless that partner is reserved.

I have spent quite a bit of time understanding the importance of communication. If I express myself naturally, it could be body language or microexpressions.