[SFW] Is a big waist a big waste? See details.

My hubby’s a big guy. Have to admit, I was much more attracted to him pre-kegbelly. Big is OK, unhealthy is not.

Doesn’t mean anything to me, I’ve loved big guys, hard-body military guys, fat party boys, and married a naturally thin guy. It’s all about the rest of them to me, gray matter holds all the attraction for me really.

Doesn’t matter to me either. I have to click more with the personality and then I try to see the beauty on the outside.

My taste. Not big for me or for him. When my husband or I get anywhere over 20 lbs of weight, we both tend to get sicker. Our bodies can’t seem to adjust to the extra weight. In our prime weight we are both pretty healthy.

My husband and I were both very slim when we first met. I gained 45 pounds when I was carrying our baby, and never really lost it. He gained 55 pounds during the same time frame, and continued gaining until a couple of years ago, when he finally got worried about his health.

I am still around 50 to 60 pounds over what I want.

I tend to go for lithe people… Maybe because I’m a forever-endomorph and I’m jealous. More likely, because the people who have truly stolen my heart have been skinny, and it’s just an association. I like thin guys who have not succumbed to the twink phenomenon.

A certain physique will certainly make me turn my head, but body size or shape is absolutely not a deal-breaker for me. I was overweight myself for years since adolescence, and I know how hard it can be to lose weight. I’d much rather be with someone who is as comfortable with their body as I am with mine now.

For some reason these answers intrigue me, love it!

It is a factor for me. I am not completely unshallow. I like a good looking guy.

I went for very wiry frames compact guys at first. Over time I decided that I am not attracted to shorter guys and perfer a more robust sort but still height and weight proportion.

I tried to get over my shallowness. But I found I was unable to compliment them physically they way they wanted.

They also tended to be insecure. Jealous and they had a huge diet difference as well as a different activity level. I will flirt with bigger waists and be friendly. There is just not enough commonality.

I gave my NSFW answer, so now I’ll give a SFW alternative.

I find myself most attracted to men on the skinny side. I don’t like them to be scrawny, though. My husband weighs about 145lbs at 5’9” and I love his body. When we met, he had about 10lbs more muscle, which was also nice, but I like him best now, especially considering I’m not the 125lb hottie he met 5 years ago either.

My first boyfriend had a little meat in his bones, but he wasn’t overweight. I’ve found a couple of overweight men attractive before, but it had more to do with awesome personalities than anything else.

@Seek_Kolinahr I’m totally with you on that.I draw the line at unhealthy, excessive obesity. It seems like a comment on character that they would let themselves get like that, and character is king.

@KNOWITALL That’s a commendable stance. But don’t you think that people allowing themselves to become morbidly obese are, in doing so, issuing a clear proof of the functionality of their grey matter?

@Pandora Ah, npblessie oblige. Truly touching, but can you really maintain it?

@YARNLADY Now das what I’m talking about.

@bookish1 Overall, that sounds like a pretty healthy attitude.

@KNOWITALL Yeah, me too.

@rosehips So a big waist is pretty much a waste, huh. Thanks.

@livelaughlove21 Flexible. It’s good to put the emphasis on other factors.

For the most part it doesn’t matter to me. I take notice of women who stimulate me intellectually. However, physically, I will also take notice of women who I am (at first glance) attracted to. My physical self prefers women who are small (but not super thin), with nice rounded, uh, bottoms and the chest region – trying to keep this SFW. My emotional/intellectual self prefers a beautiful mind. Someone’s physique, or lack thereof, is not a deal breaker for me (in regards to attraction). A physically beautiful person can turn incredibly ugly really quick (and vice versa). I don’t care how much a woman fits my preference in physical form, if she has an ugly personality..I have absolutely no attraction to her. I’ll take personality over appearance any day.

In saying all that… if my partner became obese, my only concern would be her health. My partner is not fully my ideal physical preference but I’ve actually never really thought about it until now. She is tiny and thin boned except for her belly (I swear, every bad food she’s ever consumed has gone straight to her belly, lol). None of this has ever bothered me (other than the fact it bothers her – she’s very self-conscious about it). To me, she is the most beautiful person in the world.

I am currently overweight and still have a ways to go before I am healthy again. My weight problem started from an illness and progressively got worse over time. I am learning how very difficult it can be to lose weight. I really feel for people who are going through this. It’s a lifestyle change that takes an insurmountable amount of will power and motivation.

So, yes, I have a physical preference… but it is not important enough to matter.

I like tall, thin rangy guys. I do, I do.

@Plucky Best of success on the weight loss project.

@janbb I believe you. After all, why would you lie?

@ETpro Nah, I don’t think that because someone is morbidly obese it means they are stupid. There are mental and physical illnesses that could be a factor in obesity, so I wouldn’t presume to judge based on appearance alone.

I also don’t think all alcoholics are depressed, or that all pot smokers are idiots. As most people on fluther know already, I detest generalizations as they are not factual and rarely accurate.

Have you noticed how many overweight and obese nurses there are? I have, and to me, representing the health field as a profession, I feel it’s odd.

@KNOWITALL You’re right. I recall a friend of mine who was terribly overweight, but he had been thin and fit till a horrible accident while racing funny cars left him in a Bennet body cast for a full year. When he finally healed, something in his system had gone amiss. I used to go to lunch with him. He’d eat a small salad with low-cal dressing, and he still put on the pounds.

I think cases like that are relatively rare, but it can happen. You’re right I should not generalize. At least you’re generally right about that. :-)

@ETpro All we can do is try. It is a constant battle but if I don’t work hard to keep from going over twenty, then my knees hurt like hell. As for my husband he just falls apart from the inside out. So as you can see, it really isn’t like we have a choice in the matter. I don’t want to live on pain killers all my life and my husband already has enough health problems. Any more and we will have to open our own pharmacy. He actually doesn’t have to work hard at maintaining his weight. It comes off for him pretty easy. He only puts weight on when he gets really sick. Neither one of us expects the other person to be as fit as we were when we were 20 but we expect each other to do our best for ourselves to keep as healthy as possible for as long as possible. Illnesses are unavoidable but we can always do things to keep them from spinning out of control. Of course some illness or conditions can cause one to be obese and that is just a different matter all together.

Sounds like you’re both doing all you can do. {{{{Hugs to you both}}}}.