Why do some women date complete jerks and come back to you when they're heartbroken?

Because Person A seems more exciting or makes them feel sexier or more beautiful or he is popular for the wrong reasons and so being chosen by him feels good to the girl.

Or, the girl is growing up in a family that has some dysfunction and Person A makes her feel like when she is with her family. It can be the exact opposite that girls who grow up in very healthy families don’t know what hit them when people are jerks or dishonest, they are trusting and have no idea how awful some people can be.

If she has low self esteem she is more susceptible to the jerk men or the “bad boys” but even women who have high self esteem get sucked in. It’s part of learning by trial and error about men and relationships.

Because she’s attracted to bad boys only due to her inner issues. It’s best to avoid women like this. Women or rather, GIRLS like this always want the bad boy for sex and romance but want the nice, good man for everything else and to pick up her mess. She’ll get pregnant by the “bad boy”, he’ll break her heart, and she’ll go crying to you expecting you to care for her and his child.

Sucks, right?

I notice that you mention in another question that some girl you like is dating who you call your “best friend”. Now you are asking about “complete jerks.” Are you referring to your friend? How nice of a guy are you if are slamming your best friend like this?

If you are so quick to call your best friend a complete jerk just because he got the girl you wanted, I wouldn’t be so quick to say you had better qualities than him.

For the same reason guys put perfectly good women in the friend zone while chasing a sexy piece of fluff.

Stereotypes are not useful in relationships.

@marinelife GA.

Back in my dating days, I would go out with a woman who had been treated badly, and now had no self confidence. I would treat them well, and rebuild that confidence. They would then dump me, and go out with the same kind of guy who damaged them in the first place.
To say that happened repeatedly would be an understatement.

If you wish to find a girl friend, stop focusing on who they have chosen, and focus on paying attention to her. Women like men (and girls like boys) that are interested in them, not in what else is going on socially amongst all the others.

Quit using this friendzone crap. She didn’t put you there, you didn’t ask her out! If you want to date someone, you have to ask them,and have the confidence that they want to go out with you! As golfers say when they are putting, “never up, never in”.

Because you let them. The next time this happens to you, say to the girl in question, “You know what, as your friend, I cannot watch you keep making these mistakes and then having to be the one who sops up your tears. Either learn what to look for in a good guy or keep dating jerks. That’s up to you. But I am done being the person you boo-hoo to when you continue to make the same bad choice.”

What do I really think? I think you need to re-read what @zenvelo wrote.

My sons would love to know the answer to this one. They have both had the same experience as @filmfann . Those kind of girls don’t deserve a good man.

Also, the jerks are usually cute, dangerous and/or cocky, and girls are attracted to that. By the time they mature enough to recognize a good man, they already have 6 kids, their teeth knocked out, and on welfare.

Because some men let them.

Due to reasons even the women don’t know themselves, they are involved with bad men. Maybe they like being associated with “hero” or “tough guy” type. It is part of learning process for them. For women who like to go to the good guys for comfort when things don’t work out, it is better to ignore them. Dating the good girl is worth much more than dating this type of woman.

Some women chase flash over substance, he might be hunky with a 6 pack but so dumb he can’t count to six, but they just want to be another notch in the belt because he is supposed to the the s**t.