Do men really prefer SEXY women over girl next door?

I have to fall for the person first. Sure I’ll look at someone sexy, but it’s not in a serious way. If I fall for the person than anything they do is sexy.

It depends on the man.

Just like sterotypes about women are not true (They’re gold diggers; they always fall for bad boys). Those about men aren’t true either.

no. extremely no.

This is a Ginger or MaryAnne question.

I believe most men just drool over the High Maintenance Sex Idol ones but prefer to live with the girl next door.

It’s the old thing about the elephant, they are nice to look at but who would want to own one.

Elephant?? I was thinking maybe tiger lol

First of all, Kim Kardashian is not in the least sexy, get that misconception out of your brain. Her only attraction for men is her willingness to perform sexually on video. And with those hips she is about as sexy as a barn door.

Secondly, the media is what plays up the stereotypes. But the women I find sexy as hell are confident and intelligent, and healthy. A woman who exudes health is incredibly hot to me. That’s health, not total gym rat fanaticism. Eats right and takes care of her body well, doesn’t poison it with junk food or heavy carbs.

As Amy Poehler has said “There is a lid for every pot”.

The sexiest part of a woman’s body is her brain.

Well hey what if you look at Penny from The Big Bang Theory , OMG she’s BOTH !! mind blown.

Nah seriously though, most of men’s evaluation of women is through their eyes, meaning the way a woman looks is a huge factor, but that’s only without any other influence, and it’s usually purely sexual in nature. Attraction and sexual infatuation are completely different.

So it really largely depends on a lot of other things. The sexy women do catch the glances more so than the ‘girl next door’, but honestly there’s little more than fantasy and libido acting on that impulse. Overly sexy women also tend to be intimidating and carry a stigma of “high maintenance” with men, so they’re usually avoided if things ever evolve beyond just looking at them.

Furthermore, many men know that women like that may be simply flaunting the sex appeal with motives that are less than genuine. That’s a turn-off in a lot of cases. So in reality, the “girl next door” actually merits placement pretty far ahead of ‘foxy lady’.

Well said @gambitking! I cant even add anything better to say, I would go for the girl next any time. I am at this stage in my life not to look for the foxy lady but a lady who can offer me a trust worthy relationship. A friend of mine said a foxy lady who is eye candy is exactly that, she will never be yours alone, she will belong to everybody who looks her because everybody loves eye candy and dream how they can f… her.

@antimatter my thoughts exactly.

also i have found that a good portion of the ‘eye candy’ chicks out there are dumb as a bag of hammers. And intelligence is definitely important (at least IMO) so that’s another strike.

I much prefer the sexy woman I like to call my wife, besides, the “girl” next door is 64 & wears Elvis tattoos across her arms…not my type at all.

@rojo It goes deeper than Ginger and Mary Anne- this question is about the virgin/whore dichotomy.

@chelle21689 Not all men are the same, so the answer really depends on the guy. (Freud believed that men were attracted to “bad girls” but couldn’t love them, and could love “good girls” but weren’t attracted to them. He pretty much left wives and mothers out of his theory.)

In real life, women a mix of all the qualities you’re talking about. (That’s why “I can go from jeans to an evening dress” is such a cliche in dating ads.) Like, check out my wife Neko Case, who has a low-maintenance style and is sexy as hell. People are multi-faceted, so it’s possible to be sexy and wholesome, laid back and glamorous, etc- same with guys.

In the end, it doesn’t really matter what “type” guys prefer, because hopefully they see us as people and realize that most of us are somewhere in the middle ground.

This question is kind of sexist :/ isn’t it? :/ Because I have met many women who feel exactley the same way about men, but then I have also met women who lower their standards so to speak because they believe exactley what you said but they themselves don’t feel beautiful.

Who says that the names you mentioned could be the total opposite. I always thought Taylor Swift was the “girl next door” until my daughter pointed out to me that she changes boyfriends like underwear! It is difficult to say when we stereotype people at least that’s my thoughts.

@Haleth That is what the Ginger/Maryanne dichotomy is but personally, I think it is more of a high maintenance/low maintenance thing more than any sexual aspect. It is nice to look at such but they take too much effort to make keeping one worthwhile. Give me someone who is self-sufficient and not so self-absorbed.

Bigtime stereotype. I’m not sure what type of ‘survey’ you’ve conducted, nor am I sure which type of guys you’ve surveyed, but most guys that I know of want anything but glam or too much skin on first sight. The former description of the two types of women mentioned in the OP are usually looked down upon and talked about in a negative way by most men.

I think the guy goes for the girl he thinks he can get.

@LornaLove Maybe true sometimes, but I’ve never hesitated to go after women way out of my league.

@Adirondackwannabe Bang goes my theory then!

@LornaLove Your theory is fine, I just don’t mind taking chances and shooting for the moon. Hey if you get there it’s amazing. I’m probably a little different than a lot of guys. I can see where safe would be easier.

Fact from fiction, truth from diction; in spite of the lie many people tell themselves, just about anything in life that one chooses is based off how it looks. When it comes to humans then people want to cry ”shallow”, but I would bet my donuts to anyone’s dollars even those people accusing others of it, in some subtle or latent. As one gain more wisdom (often it comes with age) you learn to get by all that gobbledygook, you start to understand the difference between ”Flash not substance”. As said prior, both men and women do it; women go for the bad boy, douche bag, thug because he is very handsome or ”hunky”, guys go after dolls, and sex kittens, not even bothering to think what personality they have. As I grew older some of the stereotypes manifested themselves as true; a lot of the very stunning gals were stuck up, conceited, b******. The gals who were cute but not considered “eye candy” turned out to be more down to earth with a charming personality; this is not absolute, but occurred enough times for me to take notice. That is why I like Maryanne when watching Gilligan’s Island over Ginger. Ginger was pretty and ”Barbieish”, but she always seem so cold, full of herself, and trying to manipulate or expect to get things her way just because she was supposed to be stunning. I like the girl-next-door type because I like natural beauty with very little make up; that would, to me,. Leave out all of those Kardashians. I am not going to sit here and lie, she has to have some physical attractiveness to go along with her personality, even if she is not all brains. Personality alone will not rule the day; it has to be a balance of personality and physicality.

^ Me thinks it is an adman hawking wares.